u/HTownNative610

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As the title says, I've never had a serious relationship as an adult. I'm not incapable, I have and have had deep intimate trusting platonic friendships with women. I have dated, though more casual and non exclusive. It's not that I didn't want something serious, I just haven't had it. There's not one single reason for this. However here are some of the reasons, in no particular order:

1. Often attracted and interested in unavailable women

2. I never made dating or finding a girlfriend a priority, I was always just letting things happen

3. Struggles with anxiety and depression

4. Focus on work rather than play

5. Just not meeting enough people to find someone I wanted to date, or being more selective

Now how do I explain or address this to someone I want to date or starting to date, if/when it comes up without throwing up huge red flags.

I don't think this is necessarily a flaw, but I think it is more unusual especially amongst my friends, and amongst the dating pool.

As the title says, I've never had a serious relationship as an adult. I'm not incapable, I have and have had deep intimate trusting platonic friendships with women. I have dated, though more casual and non exclusive. It's not that I didn't want something serious, I just haven't had it. There's not one single reason for this. However here are some of the reasons, in no particular order:

1. Often attracted and interested in unavailable women

2. I never made dating or finding a girlfriend a priority, I was always just letting things happen

3. Struggles with anxiety and depression

4. Focus on work rather than play

5. Just not meeting enough people to find someone I wanted to date, or being more selective

Now how do I explain or address this to someone I want to date or starting to date, if/when it comes up without throwing up huge red flags.

I don't think this is necessarily a flaw, but I think it is more unusual especially amongst my friends, and amongst the dating pool.

So it seems pretty universal that movies generally are bad for first, 2nd & 3rd dates generally since you aren't talking. But what about going to a play? Is that much different?

I go to business networking events to network, not find dates but what happens when you do find yourself attracted to or interested in possibly dating someone you met there? As a guy, I don't want to come off like I went there looking to get laid. I also don't want to make it uncomfortable for her, sour her on the event, or anything. So, what do you do or how do you try to approach it?