u/Hairy-Midnight-5146

My whole life I have been the go to vent space for both of my parents when they fight. Mainly for my mother.
This morning she called me before 7 AM while I was having my morning coffee and getting my kids off to school. She was hysterical, crying because my dad had flown into a rage (her words not mine) and they were fighting.
This is nothing new. Growing up my household was volatile. My dad punched holes in the walls, they screamed at each other, and there was one instance where my mom threw my dad’s stuff out the window.
I have been doing g a lot of work in therapy over the past several months the on putting up boundaries, and this morning I finally did it.
I told her I loved her, but I couldn’t navigate their marital problems anymore. She said she was sorry, but laid in the guilt of “but I don’t have anyone else to talk to” she ended the conversation downtrodden and basically hanging up on me.
I’m proud of myself, but I also feel like I could throw up.
Please tell me I did the right thing here. I’m a mess right now

On Friday I received a call from our school sped director informing me of an incident involving my son.
He’s in a self contained classroom with other autistic children of varying ages.
Apparently one of the other students jumped on top of him while he was in bean bag chair and shoved their hand down his pants.
The only thing the sped director told me was that it was a female student. Being in a small town and a small school, all the parents know each other so there isn’t a ton of privacy. There’s only one female student in his class and she is 13-14 years of age. My son is 10.
The director told me that due to the nature of the incident a hotline had to be made.
My question is what would you do going forward in regard to protecting his safety in the classroom. This other student is older and twice his size, and this isn’t the first time she has jumped on him and staff has had to intervene.
I’m having a meeting with school this week to discuss this more and I am just at a loss right now.