Normal lang ba to? Mom wants me (F23) to break up with my boyfriend (M26) because our faith don't align?
Problem/Goal: Pinag hihiwalay kami ni boyfriend because hindi kami same yoke, non-denominational evangelism church. And she's asking me na to find options WHILE in a relationship.
Context: Nasa puder pako nila, I have work but I also have school na ako gumagastos (It's a private uni so super mahal ng tuition, I'm not a scholar) pa graduate naman na ko.
LDR kami ni BF, he's from Cavite, bawal din kami mag date in private because baka daw may something sexual ganon na mangyari, madalang sya pumupunta dito sa bahay kasi super layo nga. It's been MONTHS since I've seen him.
Year prior, she told me na she wanted me to end up with a man with the same faith, same church. Then I met Vince (not his real name) He's a provider, heck, lahat ng sahod nya sakin derecho. Doesn't have any kind of bisyo, doesn't watch corn, respectful, and always refers our future with "we" not "me". Only thing is, he's from another denomination.
Then sinunod ni Vince yon, one month nagstay sya dito to get him evangelized, and it was successful. Nakita panga nung mentor nya na "He's fit to be a pastor". Before sya umuwi, binilinan sya na ituloy yung church nya sa Cavite. Pero super busy nya sa work, he can't allocate a time for church every Sunday, freelance kasi sya. So ang ginawa nya, nag online cuurch sya, sabi ni mom hindi daw sapat yun, dapat physically nandun sya sa church. Tapos need daw bago sya ulit makabalik samin, need nya mag Leadership Training program that we have in the church, it's an intensive training for up and coming youth leaders. Even I hindi kopa nagagawa yun kasi nga time constraining.
Nawalan ng gana si Vince, he thinks na he's being forced to do these things just to gain her approval of our relationship.
Nag iisolate din ako sa kwarto kasi I don't want to be asked if "ano naba status, nacchurch paba si Vince?" wala ako masagot.
Last week lang. Nagkausap yung youth mentor nya and yung mom ko, sabi ni youth mentor "wag mona papuntahin si Vince sainyo, maiiyak ako pag nagkatuluyan sila"
Eto namang si mom sagot nya sakanya, "Akala ko judgemental lang ako, tama pala confirmations ko, feeling ko may supressed emotions sya na baka sa kalaunan sakin ibubuhos" In a way na baka bugbogin nya ako or something.
NEVER did Vince hit me, sabi ko kasi sakanya na kahit once nyako paluin out of anger or magdabog hihiwalayan ko talaga sha. He never did show any violent nature.
ETO PA, dagdag ni youth leader, "ganda ganda ni Celine (not my real name) tapos mapupunta lang sya sa ganon?" Implying about his face being unnatractive. Tf?
Diba? Ang sudden?
Ngayon, nasa kwarto ako ngayon writing this. Nag chat kami kanina ni Vince, sinabi ko sakanya na ipaghihiwalay daw kami.
Sagot nya, "Ano tayo, bata? Anong pake nya sa relasyon natin?"
"Dadating din tayo sa point na yan, pero I have priorities pa, nagpapayaman pako para saatin"
Oh, another thing, sa bahay pala namin, nangungupahan lang kami ng fam ko. We have two apartments nandito ako sa 2nd unit and ang binabayaran kolang here is kuryente. Sagot nila food ko and upa.
Please please please. Need your kind words, I'm really not in a good mood. I would appreciate any comments here. Share your thoughts if this is okay, thank you for reading this.
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