u/Happy_vibez_06

AssallamAllaikum folks! Due to one major personal upheaval that is losing my mother suddenly we have to go through a lot of changes in our daily lives. Pls remember her in your prayers.

The thing is I was preparing for UPSC but also thought of going for law for three years and Bangalore was my next stop but dude to this sudden upheaval I have change in my plans that is now I’m considering to graduate from Lucknow university. However my concern regarding this is should I have a focus on litigation or on corporate law from the beginning ? Or should i explore by doing various internships?
Whole responsibility is on me so pls don’t think I need to worry about attendance as my whole focus will be on studies and getting my career sorted.

Any lawyer here with whom I can get in touch with ? I came across one fellow here on Reddit who did have contacts but then he steered the conversation towards NSFW stuff which made me feel very uncomfortable hence had to drop him. I’m a newbie basically in this field so any guidance is appreciated.

How is it ? Esp for corporate law ?

Hi, due to some personal affairs and upheaval I might locate to Lucknow. I wanted to know which college is best for Law precisely if I’m looking for a career in corporate law.

AssallamAllaikum. I recently lost my mother all of a sudden while on a happy family trip, it was sudden and devastating. It has broken my father, my siblings and me. We feel very lonely and alone and I’m worried about my father’s well bending too as he is completely broken. He was very attached to her and loved her deeply. I’m also worried and feel pity towards my brother as he’s very small yet and he lost mum. All we tell each other is “nobody can deny death. If Allah SWT wanted her to be alive he would have saved her anyhow, it was her time, even though early but what else can we do?”

Now as being the elder child all responsibilities are upon me. When I say all I literally mean it. From doing house chores like sweeping, dusting, cooking, washing utensils, managing the laundry to everything. My father insists that he will do it too and he insists on at least doing laundry but since he’s also weak right now and his health issues has amplified ever since mom left I really don’t bother him nor do I like when he does any work. He anyway has a lot of responsibility towards us. My sister doesn’t help me at all. Have to literally tell her n number of times to even do a small task. She wakes up late too. So instead of telling her something to do I only do that work or else it leads to arguments and heated escalation of words.

My brother is too small and I want him to protect him for all these things. His childhood shouldn’t be affected at all.

Now coming to me. I was in a haram relationship with a man for three long years and I legit thought we have a future together and we will marry. Anyway that man betrayed me by breaking up with me over minor issues. I was dealing with that break up and was getting over it gradually and was finally feeling happy after months of despair and then all of a sudden I was struck with my mom’s sudden passing away. All those wounds got fresh again. Tbh I have always faced my emotions and feelings regarding anything but this time with Mummy I have become an avoidant. Even if for 2 secs I’m left alone with my thoughts I start getting panic attacks and I start missing her a lot so idk it’s become my coping mechanism.

Yesterday my dad was saying that within the next 3-4 years I will have to marry you off and then we will be left alone. And as a father it’s my obligation that you get married to a good man plus you have your own family etc. But he’s also worried that how will be the man ? Will he be responsible enough ? Will he be like a son more to us than just being a son in law ? Do you like anyone or you have anyone on your mind ?

When he asked me these questions I was really clueless. My mind was blank. I really have No one on my mind. The guy who I was with for three years and thought that he’s the one he only betrayed me and when I had told him that I need him the most when mom left us his response was “be strong take care” lmao okay.

I also don’t wanna go through a typical arranged marriage route where the lifestyle between me and the guy is so different it takes another decade to adjust with him. I want someone who has had similar upbringing as me but I’m just scared to open up and emotionally get attached again. I’m scared I’ll be hurt again and after mom it’s too much.

My relatives are also just good on face and not like they care. They actually don’t care at all. Neither my dad’s siblings nor my moms siblings as they always had jealousy and plus many misunderstandings. My dad’s siblings want him to marry me off to one of their kids. We already said No to one and that family has been treating us like foreigners ever since.

I do like a guy but from afar he looks perfect but idk how is he irl. Or does he has anyone in his life ? Is he engaged or dating? Plus I have a lil beef with that guys best friend so yeah in short my life sucks atp. I’m stuck from all side of my life.

Idk if it’s a test from Allah SWT or did I hurt anyone intentionally or unintentionally? But yeah all I can say is now only Allah knows what’s there in future for me.