u/Happyfreeppl

I lost my baby at 38 weeks about 12 weeks ago. I’m still trying to process the grief.

A close friend I spoke to daily for a couple of years—she used to call me often, and we were very involved in each other’s lives during work, her pregnancy, her birth, and general life events—stopped talking to me a few days after I shared my loss.

At an already very overwhelming time, she also shared what happened to me at work without asking me first, while I was still in the hospital. That led to my manager contacting me during a very vulnerable moment, which was very distressing and unexpected.

After I reached out recently to try to reconnect and told her that I missed her, I also apologized in case I had scared her with what happened to my baby. She responded that she does not maintain close friendships and does not want to continue contact. She explained that our relationship was mainly based on working together, and now that this is no longer the case (she also left her job around the same time I went on maternity leave), she does not see it as a friendship she wants to continue. She said she generally does not maintain close or frequent relationships and prefers distance.

Her exact words were that she doesn’t really like friendships, prefers to keep her energy to herself and her family, does not like daily close contact, and simply does not want to communicate anymore. She asked me to forget about her and not think about her.

What’s also confusing is that two days before I found out my baby had no heartbeat, she actually called me in the evening to seek emotional support for her own personal family issues.

I feel deeply hurt and abandoned on top of grieving my baby. I feel like she was very present when she needed support, but when I went through the hardest moment of my life, she completely pulled away. I wasn’t expecting her to fix anything—just to be emotionally present.

Even my manager at work has been asking me what happened between us, because we were so close and I supported her a lot at work. I honestly don’t know how to explain it.

Has anyone experienced something similar? What did you do?

We planted the tree in memory of our baby Edward💙🌿👣 Japanese Maple 🍁 🍁 Happy our furry friend 🐾 , of course, helped us 🥰

He was born sleeping on 02.12.2026 (his due date was 02.26.2026). No clear reason was found.💔

The pain of losing a baby can feel like an agony…unbearable...but when we allow God to come into that place, He fills it with peace and makes it softer. It becomes bittersweet—filled with deep love, even in the grief. ❤️‍🩹

Many will say, “I’m sorry for your loss,” but the truth is, he is not lost. We know exactly where he is. He is home. Forever. ❤️

This tree will grow and change with time, just like our journey with grief. And through every season, we know God is present. Because you don’t really get over it, but you can learn to live with it… feeling both joy and sorrow at the same time and be at full peace with it.

We praise God because He is our healer. He meets us in our brokenness and gives us strength to keep going, to keep living, and to still find joy.

If you are walking through loss, you are not alone. God sees you, holds you, and walks with you. Don’t be afraid to feel what comes. There are no rules, no “shoulds,” no “what ifs.” Your feelings are what they are—and they are valid. 🤍❤️

Hello

Looking for doctor around Columbus area, Ohio to find underlying issue for Blood pressure.

I had normal BP reading prior pregnancy, during pregnancy from first trimester it has been elevated, so they diagnosed me with chronic hypertension. During labor it was still mild elevated, however during delivery - push stage it was high and they diagnosed me with preeclampsia.

After Delivery, 4 weeks PP - BP readings are in normal range again 120/80. I am trying to prevent it if possible in the next pregnancy.

Thank you in advance.