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Daily chat to discuss anything related to pregnancy after loss.
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Hi everyone,
I’m 3 weeks away from my C-section after experiencing a neonatal loss shortly after birth last year, and I’ve been feeling really anxious lately. I keep feeling scared that something bad could happen again.
It almost feels surreal to think about actually bringing a baby home this time.
I feel like after going through loss, and now knowing so much more, my mind can think of 1001 ways things could go wrong at any moment.
I keep wondering if this is intuition or just anxiety from what I went through? Has anyone else felt this way near the end of a pregnancy after loss or is it just me?
I would really appreciate some advice. I know I’m in somewhat of a unique situation, but there’s a lot of pressure surrounding this decision.
Last pregnancy, I developed severe last-minute onset preeclampsia, placental abruption, and DIC after finishing a clinical rotation and a board exam in medical school. I ended up needing an emergency C-section at 30 weeks and lost my baby.
What’s difficult is that at the time before everything happened, yes I was tired, but I genuinely did not feel like I was overly stressed or pushing myself too hard. I felt like I was being pretty chill overall. But I did have episodes of high blood pressure spikes, and at 25 weeks I even went into L&D concerned and asking to be evaluated because I felt something was wrong. Looking back at the placenta pathology and the overall picture, it seems like I had a more atypical presentation that went undiagnosed until everything suddenly escalated.
Now I’m pregnant again only 4 months after my C-section. I’m currently enrolled in a rotation and planning to continue until around 14 weeks pregnant, since that would finish my third year of medical school. After that, I’m trying to decide whether I should take a gap/research year.
If I stay on track, I would be doing audition rotations from about 19–22 weeks pregnant, which I know can sometimes be pretty high stress, and then residency interviews would mostly fall around November/December right around my due date. After delivery, I’d basically get the standard ~8 weeks postpartum before needing to jump back into everything.
If I took a gap year instead, I’d essentially be home from around 14 weeks pregnant until delivery trying to stay productive and work on other things/research, and then I’d get around 5 months postpartum before returning.
Part of me feels like slowing down would be the healthier decision after everything that happened. But interestingly, my OB actually advised against taking a gap year because he thinks too much free time and lack of structure may worsen my anxiety and make me spiral mentally. Honestly, I can see his point too because I tend to overthink when I’m not busy.
I also had a miscarriage and then a stillbirth all within the span of last year, so emotionally I don’t even feel comfortable sharing this pregnancy with my school yet. I’m only 10 weeks and everything still feels very early and fragile to me.
I honestly just don’t know if I’d regret stepping away, or regret pushing myself again. Sorry for the long post and I appreciate any and all advice.
Finally posting now that we are settled 🩵
Baby Jack was born on 24 April 2026 and 9:02am via planned C-section, 3.3kgs/7.3lbs and came out screaming. The best sound I’ve ever heard.
Jack’s birthday is one year to the day from when we found out his sister Charlotte had died. It felt like a full circle moment in the hardest way. We celebrated Charlotte’s birthday with Jack at home, which was wonderful and terribly sad at the same time.
The last two weeks of pregnancy were the hardest - I didn’t quite anticipate it. And the last 24 hours was harrowing, I was counting down each hour just hoping he would make it.
Pregnancy after stillbirth was the hardest thing I’ve done, and I was really not prepared for him to live. Each day it gets easier to understand that he is here and he’s healthy and happy.
For those of you going through this journey, hold on, it’s so so worth it, but so so hard. I don’t think I’ve even begun to process just how hard it was yet.
One bit of advice I would give is prepare as much as you can for breastfeeding, and ask for help early if it’s not working (if it’s something you want to do). Feeding is the bit I found the most triggering - my hospital didn’t support me with it so Jack lost a lot of weight in the first two days due to a shallow latch. He’s back on track now, but it was so hard to feel like I was failing him once he was outside of my body.
Thank you all for your replies and support on my posts throughout pregnancy. Having a community like this made pregnancy after sb feel just a tiny bit more manageable and would have otherwise have been so lonely and isolating. As you know it’s hard to find people who really truly understand know what we are going through.
I had a stillbirth via cesarean delivery in November 2025 due to cord prolapse. After that, doctors advised me to wait a year or more before trying to conceive again. However, my previous high-risk specialist later told me I could start trying again after 6 months, starting from May.
I actually started TTC in April itself, and my period never came in May. Home pregnancy tests have shown mixed results. I got my beta hCG tested at 11 DPO, and the value came back as 39.
My doctor asked me to repeat the beta after 48 hours, and now I’m extremely anxious waiting for the results. What worries me even more is that my body is showing almost no pregnancy symptoms this time except for mild nausea after meals.
In my previous pregnancy, I had very obvious symptoms early on — sore breasts, constipation, frequent urination, cravings, extreme nausea — and I just knew I was pregnant even before testing. I’m someone who usually senses ovulation, periods, implantation, everything very clearly. But this time, I feel almost nothing, and it’s making me terrified that something is wrong.
Has anyone else experienced a healthy pregnancy with very mild or almost no symptoms in the beginning? Did anyone have low-looking early beta numbers that still progressed normally?
After my previous loss, I honestly don’t think I’m emotionally ready for another heartbreak.
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Hi all! For those of you who had an easy vaginal delivery with their loss, for your subsequent pregnancy did you opt for a vaginal delivery again or a planned c section?
I’m currently 26 weeks after a full term loss. My daughter passed away 12 hours after birth due to idiopathic PPHN. We have no answers and sometimes I wonder if labor was hard for her, but OB and MFM mentioned labor had nothing to do with the outcome.
Both my previous birth experiences were great - quick labor and easy vaginal births. I don’t know if something’s wrong with my body, but I don’t feel any contraction pain until I’m dilated to around 7-8 cm. Both the times it felt like a mild period cramp and only the last couple hours is when I find it intense.
But since losing my daughter after what seemed like an easy labor and delivery, the thought of going through it again scares me.
What helped you decide and please share your experience 🙏🏻
Thanks in advance!
Our firstborn, our Lily, was born sleeping at 35 weeks last November 2025. She died due to lack of oxygen from a long hypercoiled cord and a marginal placenta insertion (her cord was attached on the side of the placenta rather than the centre). She was otherwise a perfectly healthy baby.
I am now pregnant with her little sibling. I just want to hear from other parents who had something similar happen with their angel baby's cord and/or placenta and are now pregnant/have given birth - how are you now? How have you overcome the anxiety? Have you given birth to a healthy baby?
The cord and placenta insertion circumstance is completely random and apparently can happen to anyone. The medical professionals and my own personal research all say there was absolutely nothing I could have done to prevent it. It "just happens" and sadly it happened to us. To our firstborn child.
Now I am filled with fear and anxiety. I'm hoping hearing from some of you will somewhat ease a bit of that fear and anxiety.
Thank you in advance.
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I’m currently 7 weeks and 4 days pregnant after losing our daughter at 22 weeks, and this pregnancy has already been emotionally difficult for both my fiancé and me. We are hopeful and praying that we’ll get to bring our baby home this time, but I’ve been struggling with a situation involving his family.
His mother, in particular, has been incredibly hurtful both before and after our loss. Before I was ever pregnant, she told him that if he “ever got me pregnant” I would just “put him on child support,” despite barely even knowing me. After we lost our daughter, instead of offering condolences, her response to him was, “At least you can get married now.” There was no compassion, no acknowledgment of our grief, nothing.
His grandmother is slightly more caring and has prayed for us, but even then, the support feels surface level. Recently, my fiancé showed his mom the memorial tattoos we got for our daughter, and her only response was to say tattoos are a sin and that his body “isn’t his.”
Because of these repeated comments and the lack of empathy shown during one of the hardest experiences of our lives, I’ve told my fiancé that I don’t want our child around his mother or that side of the family. He understands and agrees with my feelings, but I still find myself wondering if I’m being too harsh or simply trying to protect my peace and my child.
Backstory, I lost my daughter mere hours prior to natural labor beginning at 40+2 last year in May.
Currently 33+3, no complaints/issues aside from baby not fully completing the "breathing" portion on last 3 BPP's. (Last 3 NST have been normal)
MFM & Midwives have discussed to allow induction as early as 37 weeks, simply for my mental health.
I'm hoping to hear about other women who have elected to have early inductions at 37 weeks and what (if any) complications they may have experienced? I have an appt next week to cover this with my midwives, however I'd really appreciate to hear from other moms as well. Trying to weigh the risks associated and make an educated decision.
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