u/Glass-Jackfruit-3526

I’m filled with so many emotions as I hold my son’s hand and type this message. ❤️

Sid was born on August 6th, weighing 7 lb 8 oz at 38+2 weeks. I was scheduled for an induction on August 11th, and the days leading up to it were honestly some of the hardest. The night of August 5th, I felt like I was on the verge of a mental breakdown. I literally begged my baby to come out safely.

A few hours later, even though I wasn’t having any contractions or experiencing any other symptoms, my gut told me to go to L&D. To my surprise, I was already 5 cm dilated and 80% effaced, and I was admitted. Labor was mostly easy, and our baby boy arrived healthy and safe via vaginal delivery after just four pushes. 🩵

I delivered my beautiful daughter exactly 377 days before my son was born. She was born alive at 40 weeks in July of last year, but sadly passed away due to complications. We never got the answers we desperately hoped for, even after extensive genetic testing and a postmortem examination.

Both of my babies were born at the same hospital and delivered by the same OB, someone I trusted deeply throughout both journeys.

I still miss my daughter every single day, but having my son in my arms has soothed a part of me in ways I can’t fully describe. Five days after delivery, I developed postpartum preeclampsia and was admitted to the hospital again. It was another unexpected bump in the road, but I’m incredibly grateful to everyone who supported me throughout this journey. I’m so happy and grateful to finally be back home with my LC and my baby. ❤️

To all the mamas going through a pregnancy after a late loss: please be kind to yourself. Trust yourself, trust your body, and listen to that little voice inside you. You know your baby better than anyone. 💕💓

I’m 4 days postpartum and what I thought started off as a fairly easy breastfeeding journey is turning into a nightmare. I’m literally crying typing this post. My lil one has a good, strong suck but sometimes the latch is shallow and now I’m stuck with extremely painful, red, almost bloody nipples. I want to give a break to breastfeeding and move to pumping for the next few days. Also, I received my silverettes on Amazon today and just tried them on. Started on lanolin as well.

I had an unmediated vaginal delivery and to be honest, that was much better. Maybe because I was prepared for it. It’s like my breast is on fire 24x7. I also cannot imagine pumping exclusively..I exclusively pumped for 16 months with my first child and do not want to go that route.

Please share any tips, success stories that might help 🙏🏻

Title describes it mostly.

I (34F) and husband (36M) have a 3.5 year old and we are in a happy relationship. I’m currently 35 weeks pregnant after our newborn passed away last year. Her anniversary is in 2 weeksand all the trauma is coming back to me. This new pregnancy has been literally filled with anxiety and with being so close to delivery I’m stressed and can’t sleep at night.

Husband has been doing better compared to me. Couple months after loss, his life went back to normal. He plays soccer thrice a week at night, meets his friends occasionally and I’m glad he is doing well. Over the weekend, there was a soccer watch party at his friend’s place and he said he’s be back by midnight. He didn’t return until 4 AM, I’ve been so anxious, and he thinks it’s totally fine. I’m truly hurt that he would prioritize partying until 4 AM with friends while I struggle with grief and navigating third trimester.

There’s something inside me that broke with this behavior. I just want him away from the house for a few days until I feel better. Am I over reacting?

I’m expecting a baby boy very soon and my husband and I prefer the letter S. All our pets and two daughters names start with S. But it’s been a struggle finding a good boy name. We live in USA and want to have a name that’s easy. We are not fans of unusual names honestly, meaning we are looking for names that people have heard of in the past. Some names we like are:

Sidhant (unsure if Americans can pronounce)

Samay

Samar

Our daughter is Samira, so I’m not too keen on last two as it will sound similar. Any other thoughts?? Looking for suggestions.

Hi all! For those of you who had an easy vaginal delivery with their loss, for your subsequent pregnancy did you opt for a vaginal delivery again or a planned c section?

I’m currently 26 weeks after a full term loss. My daughter passed away 12 hours after birth due to idiopathic PPHN. We have no answers and sometimes I wonder if labor was hard for her, but OB and MFM mentioned labor had nothing to do with the outcome.

Both my previous birth experiences were great - quick labor and easy vaginal births. I don’t know if something’s wrong with my body, but I don’t feel any contraction pain until I’m dilated to around 7-8 cm. Both the times it felt like a mild period cramp and only the last couple hours is when I find it intense.

But since losing my daughter after what seemed like an easy labor and delivery, the thought of going through it again scares me.

What helped you decide and please share your experience 🙏🏻

Thanks in advance!

Tw: infant loss

My husband (35M) and I (34F) are expecting a baby due in August. We have only revealed this to our parents and requested not to share with anyone else.

We lost our full term daughter to unexpected complications shortly after birth last year and the trauma and grief has taken a toll. I just want to keep things private until I’m comfortable sharing this with my siblings and rest of the extended family. I told my mom that I might not want to reveal until we actually have a healthy/alive baby home.

She thinks I’m being unreasonable and it’s not possible to keep this from people. For context, my husband and I live in USA while most of our family (including my parents and in-laws) is outside the country. My siblings live here but are out of state. She wanted to tell my siblings, grandparents, and I told her it would hurt my feelings if she did.

This happened last month and she brought it up again. AITAH for not sharing this information with my siblings who I’m close to. I’m just not ready mentally.