u/RestSure4731

Hello, I had a 22-week PPROM loss about 6 months ago, and I’m currently pregnant again. My OB referred me to an MFM, but I’m worried they may want to just monitor me instead of placing a preventative cerclage. They mentioned wanting to do a 3D ultrasound first to determine whether I need one.

I’m confused because I thought a cerclage was meant to be preventative, and with my history, waiting feels very risky to me. I’m trying to understand why some doctors prefer monitoring instead of placing the cerclage early. Are there significant risks to getting a cerclage that make doctors hesitant to do it?

I would really appreciate hearing from anyone with a similar history or experience.

Hello, I had a 22-week PPROM loss about 6 months ago, and I’m currently pregnant again. My OB referred me to an MFM, but I’m worried they may want to just monitor me instead of placing a preventative cerclage. They mentioned wanting to do a 3D ultrasound first to determine whether I need one.

I’m confused because I thought a cerclage was meant to be preventative, and with my history, waiting feels very risky to me. I’m trying to understand why some doctors prefer monitoring instead of placing the cerclage early. Are there significant risks to getting a cerclage that make doctors hesitant to do it?

I would really appreciate hearing from anyone with a similar history or experience.

I’m currently 7 weeks and 4 days pregnant after losing our daughter at 22 weeks, and this pregnancy has already been emotionally difficult for both my fiancé and me. We are hopeful and praying that we’ll get to bring our baby home this time, but I’ve been struggling with a situation involving his family.

His mother, in particular, has been incredibly hurtful both before and after our loss. Before I was ever pregnant, she told him that if he “ever got me pregnant” I would just “put him on child support,” despite barely even knowing me. After we lost our daughter, instead of offering condolences, her response to him was, “At least you can get married now.” There was no compassion, no acknowledgment of our grief, nothing.

His grandmother is slightly more caring and has prayed for us, but even then, the support feels surface level. Recently, my fiancé showed his mom the memorial tattoos we got for our daughter, and her only response was to say tattoos are a sin and that his body “isn’t his.”

Because of these repeated comments and the lack of empathy shown during one of the hardest experiences of our lives, I’ve told my fiancé that I don’t want our child around his mother or that side of the family. He understands and agrees with my feelings, but I still find myself wondering if I’m being too harsh or simply trying to protect my peace and my child.