u/Harmattannn

Talking out loud to myself way too much

32, Black Female, 5'2, 145lbs, 10 years of complaint, Meds: Zoloft, Wellbutrin, Adderall, Diagnosed Depression, Anxiety, ADHD

My concerns are best described in scenarios:

  1. Holding arguments out loud with people I've known in the past or through pop culture about politics, culture, etc. I am always the victor and display a level of confidence I don't actually possess in normal life. I sometimes voice out the opposing argument, and then also offer the rebuttal. I am not hearing voices though; I'm literally just arguing with myself with the intent to ridicule the opposing argument.

  2. As I exist in my home alone, I often pretend there are other people there watching me. Not as if I'm physically seeing a person but more like pantomiming how I would act if they were around. Example: Pretending that I'm dancing in front of someone I'm attracted to at a concert. The person is behind me watching and thinks the world of me. All of this happens while I know I'm alone, and that what I'm doing is not normal, but it makes me feel really good in the moment.

  3. Other times, I'm prone to pretending I'm around a group of people I admire and having conversations that I want to have with them. Sometimes, I'll see something online, and map out how I would relay that topic to someone I know. I'll literally rehearse every word, anticipate what the other person would say, and practice over and over and over again until I reach the perfect joke or the most clever retort. I can do this, and the above scenarios listed above, for hours on end.

  4. Tangentially related, I have a major issue with racing thoughts or intrusive thoughts. I can never not be thinking about nothing. Even while I'm reading, I'm either singing a song in my head, or thinking of an incident from years ago or five minutes ago. And when doing normal thing (walking down the street, grocery shopping, taking the bus), I often imagine that I'm either being observed negatively by "someone" watching me, or I'm behaving very gracefully as if to impress someone I am sure is admiring me from afar. And when I'm walking down the street, I specifically feel that everyone is watching how I walk and judging it negatively. So I mentally have to go through all the steps of walking gracefully. In my head, I check off these boxes: 1)extend leg, 2)don't forget to sway hips naturally, 3)keep your head high, and 4)don't swing your arms weirdly. It's gotten to the point where I will fill a purse with unnecessary heavy things I don't need because I only feel normal walking down the street if my bag looks and is so heavy that it explains why I'm walking the way I am.

I lead a fairly normal life. No one I know would ever guess that I suffer from any mental illness. I am a professional, college grad, and all of my colleagues have at one point or another described me as the funniest person, and mentioned how "put together " I am (i.e. wear makeup and have a keen sense of style).

What would you tell me if I was your patient? I appreciate this sub so much for being the only place I can actually be honest about this. Thank you.

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u/Harmattannn — 1 day ago
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Nursing students, plz help

Hi, I'm called the help line at least 3 times waited for 30 minutes EACH TIME and then got hung up on. So I thought I'd try Reddit.

For you, nursing Majors, did you have to take your prerequisites before starting the program. Or are your prerequisites folded into the curriculum itself?

I'm really just needing to take all my prerequisites before I transfer to another nursing program for a master's entry into nursing program. And I don't want to do it online. I'd like to do it in person at Nova.

TIA😊

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u/Harmattannn — 10 days ago

*This post is inspired by another post I saw about hairstyle choices*

I just wanted to share a trick that alleviated almost all of the anxiety/disappointment/frustration with choosing a consistently reliable hairstyle.

I have a tapered fro. I wear it in a highly-defined (Thank you Miche gel!) W-n-G ALL THE TIME. I wash my hair every three days due to working out and sweating. I prioritize exercise and being able to touch my scalp. I've done wigs and braids, but I feel most comfortable with a short, tapered fro that takes me about 2 to 3 hours to wash and style.

I get tangles, fairy knots, and weird-ass, random-ass tiny clumps of hair that have decided to loc- without telling me. So evey couple weeks, I do a trim; this, more or less, keeps my hair at around the same length. I ACCEPT THAT. I've stopped putting pressure on my hair to tick all the boxes; it is a sigh of relief like no other!

So I encourage you all to prioritize your top two requirements for a perfect (or practical) hairstyle. Then, decide if you can deal with the downside of that style. For instance:

W-n-G: frequent trims, minimal length retention.

Straight Natural : IDK because I've never done it 🤷

Wig Natural - : SUMMATIME HEAT, sacrificing comfort, but maximum length retention.

In summary, I've found extreme relief in accepting the downside that comes with my chosen hairstyle. Fairy knots be damned 😭!

Overall, I just want us Black girls to be muuuuuuuuuuuuuuch easier on ourselves😘.

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u/Harmattannn — 16 days ago