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Your blog is the journey you are on, not the report you file at the end

I was in the middle of writing a post for my blog today when this came out of me, and I had to stop and read it back because it’s the thing I wish somebody had handed me years earlier than they did.

>A blog isn’t a place where finished people go to publish their conclusions. It’s the record of somebody building something, written while they’re still building it.

You’re taking your reader along with you: what you tried and how it went, what worked, including the part where you weren’t sure it would, and what flopped completely and cost you a month you’d really like back. It’s what you believed in January that you’ve totally changed your mind about by September, and what changed it.

Nobody needs you to have arrived. They need you to be moving, out loud, somewhere they can watch it happen.

That one shift changes what you’re allowed to write about, and it changes it a lot. If you’ve ever felt like you had nothing to say, it’s probably because you were measuring yourself against some finished expert. Measure yourself against the person two steps behind you instead, and you’ve got something worth writing every single week, because every week you learn something they haven’t learned yet.

My own message has changed more than once over the years. Not because I was wrong to start, but because you can’t think your way to the right version from a standing start. You write, you watch what lands, you adjust, and the blog carries the whole record of that. The people who’ve read me the longest didn’t stay because I had it right at the beginning. They stayed because they could watch me work it out.

Anyone else feel this way? What’s something you’ve completely changed your mind about since you started blogging?

A new blogging client asked me [her question], and the conversation that followed was good enough that I wanted to bring it here, because this group always has something useful to add.

Every one of us who blogs or creates content wants to be found, but being found isn't really the goal for me. I want to be recommended.

When someone mentions a problem and a friend tells her to go follow me because I can help with that, that's the best referral there is. AI works the same way, and I would much rather it recommend me by name than pull my content and hand out the answer without me attached to it.

What got me thinking about this was a training video from a well-known teacher in this space. It ran two hours and fifteen minutes on a single problem.

I scrolled through a good chunk of it looking for the answer and never found it stated in a way I could use. I'm sure she shared it somewhere among all the mumble marketing along the way, but it was buried so far down that hardly anyone would still be watching when it showed up.

What people remember weeks later, and what they forward to a friend, is the moment someone gave them a clear answer they could use right away.

That's what makes them think this person knows what she's talking about, and when the problem turns into a real decision with money attached, that's who they think of first.

That's why I put the answer at the top of my blog posts. Nobody should have to dig through hours of content to find it, and I suspect it's also part of why AI tools are more likely to point to a post when the answer is easy to find.

> How do you handle this in your own posts? Do you lead with the answer, or do you build up to it?

Scrolling and reading people's bio on Linkedin, Facebook and some here

Amazing how many "coaches", "life coaches", business coach, leadership coach, career coach, mindset coach, sales coach, branding coach, social media coach, health and wellness coach.

Where did all these people get qualified to be a "coach"?

Life experience? or sounded good on the Bio?

I keep noticing this from people who have been online for ten years or more, so it is not something only beginners run into.

You write the post and you answer her question, and she gets to the point where she is ready to buy. She clicks your affiliate link, and from there the company gets the sale and her email address while you get a commission and nothing else. You did the finding and the convincing, and one click moved all of that into somebody else's account.

I learned this the hard way somewhere else. I worked with a company for over eleven years, and the first thing they told me when I left was that I could not download my list of customers. What they did not know was that I had been collecting those names on my own side the whole time, so there was nothing I needed to download at the last minute. Everybody I had found and helped was already mine to keep.

The setup that fixes it on a blog takes about twenty minutes to build. You put a plain opt in page of your own in front of the affiliate link, with one line about what she is getting, an email field, and then a redirect that sends her on to the offer. The page does not have to look impressive, because the commission is identical either way and the only real difference is that two things happen now instead of one.

What matters is what comes after that click. A commission arrives one time and then it is finished, while a reader on your list is somebody you can help again next month and the month after that, and you can put other things in front of her without paying to find her all over again. Almost every sale after the first one comes out of that list, and if you send her straight out to the offer, the affiliate company is the one building it instead of you.

If you have links up right now, this is worth twenty minutes of your week. Open your blog, find every live affiliate link you have, click each one and ask yourself where her email address ends up. When the answer is their account rather than yours, that link is doing full price work for a single payment, so start with whichever link gets the most traffic and decide what should sit in front of it.

Do you route your affiliate links through a page of your own first, or do you send people straight to the offer?

A habit worth carrying into any new AI tool you try: before you do anything else, test what happens when you type an @ symbol or a / (slash) in the prompt box.

Most tools tuck a whole menu of features behind one of these two characters, and there's rarely a pop-up telling you they exist.

When I find someone whose content I really enjoy, I usually sign up for their newsletter first.

Then I’ll check what other social platforms they’re on, and if I really like what they’re putting out, I’ll follow them on several (sometimes all) of those platforms too.

I’ll keep following as long as I’m interested, and if their content stops being relevant to me, I’ll eventually unfollow.

I’m curious—does anyone else do this?

When you find a creator, writer, or business you really like, do you follow them everywhere, or do you prefer to stick to just one platform or their newsletter?

Most people choosing their first paid offer pick the one they want to sell. The topic, the problem, the message.

It is the idea that keeps them up, the one half written in their head, and it feels like the obvious place to start.  The one that sells is usually something else.

The paid version of whatever help people who already come to you for help. It is sitting in your top pages, in the posts strangers land on without being sent. The topic people comment on the most. Ask the questions.

When the thing you build and the thing that brings people in are about different subjects, you are asking someone who arrived with one problem to buy the answer to another.

When it is the wrong topic. She leaves, and it reads to you like nobody wants what you made.  The other thing I would put every idea through is how long it takes to finish.

A three month build means you learn in December whether anyone wanted it.

Something you can put together in a week can be selling by the end of the month, and ten people buying it at a small price tells you more about your readers than another month of planning. 

It is also another idea of what you can create next that is a small price but answered the next problem.

That can not become an upsell to the first one.

Do you see how you can build on top of one idea?

People scream from the rooftop "high level sells" when they have not earned the place to be a high level seller. It takes time. Small also wins.

Give me your thoughts....

If you are blogging and picking the topic is the part that stalls you, this is what I do. I hope it helps.

Somebody has already written it for me. OR - It is sitting in a comment, an email reply, or a post in a group where a woman is saying out loud what she cannot get to work.

When she tells me she cannot get her posts found, or that nobody opens her emails, or that she has no idea which affiliate program to pick, that sentence is the topic. It is also close to word for word what she would type into Google, because she is the same person in both places.

Keyword tools hand you the tidy version. They smooth her sentence into something that sounds like marketing, and then you write for the smoothed version and wonder why it does not land.

I still use the tools for information. They come second. I find the sentence first and check it afterwards.

The other thing I stopped doing is chasing the big search numbers. Two hundred searches a month from women who have the exact problem I solve is worth more to me than twenty thousand from people who are only curious, because I can help the first group and the second one was never staying.

If you have a month of comments, replies and group posts sitting there unread, that is a topic list you already own.

If you are blogging and picking the topic is the part that stalls you, this is what I do. I hope it helps.

Somebody has already written it for me. OR - It is sitting in a comment, an email reply, or a post in a group where a woman is saying out loud what she cannot get to work.

When she tells me she cannot get her posts found, or that nobody opens her emails, or that she has no idea which affiliate program to pick, that sentence is the topic. It is also close to word for word what she would type into Google, because she is the same person in both places.

Keyword tools hand you the tidy version. They smooth her sentence into something that sounds like marketing, and then you write for the smoothed version and wonder why it does not land.

I still use the tools for information. They come second. I find the sentence first and check it afterwards.

The other thing I stopped doing is chasing the big search numbers. Two hundred searches a month from women who have the exact problem I solve is worth more to me than twenty thousand from people who are only curious, because I can help the first group and the second one was never staying.

If you have a month of comments, replies and group posts sitting there unread, that is a topic list you already own.

Something I have been testing on my blog this year is location of the newsletter form.

For a long time my email signup sat at the bottom of every post and always in the footer.
For me personally if I like someone article I go looking for the newsletter form - I know not everyone is like that.

If I really like their content I go looking for the social links to look at their post to learn more about them. Sometimes what they post end up being not something I want to follow and move on.

When I moved it up to sit right after the first useful section (above the fold), it felt too early. Pushy, almost. I sat with that feeling for a while before I understood what it was.

It was not about the reader. It was about me being comfortable. Waiting until the end meant I never had to feel like I was asking for something, and I had dressed that up as good manners.

The reader was never the one who needed me to wait. She either wants the thing or she does not, and she works that out about thirty seconds after she starts reading, not at the bottom of the page.

I know people who go the other way on purpose and keep the ask at the end because they would rather convert fewer people than feel like they are interrupting, which is a real position and I understand it.

I follow one person who list their newsletter three times in every single post. (of course I signed up)

Where do you place your forms? or product for sale that seems to sit the best for you?

Ninety days ago I wrote a review post on a company I use. A few weeks back, leads started coming in from it, and it took me a minute to figure out why. It was one change I had made to the page.

Google Search Console shows you the exact words people type to land on your page. Look at the queries where you are getting impressions but almost no clicks.

That gap means people are searching for it, Google is showing your page, but the page is not answering it well enough to earn the click or a higher spot.

People kept searching a specific question my post touched on but never answered head on.

I added one short section that answered that exact question in the first sentence, then two or three sentences under it. I did not touch anything else on the page.

Within a couple of weeks the page moved to page one for the terms on it.
One section. No ads.

The strategy I keep coming back to: your own data already tells you what to write next. Read the queries, find the one you are showing up for but not answering, and answer it. Then leave the rest alone.

FYI, one thing that trips people up. AOnce it is cleared, pop the URL into Search Console and hit Request Indexing so Google comes back and reads the new section sooner.

If you run a caching plugin purge both, or you and Google can keep seeing the old version and think the change did not work.

I wrote a post about three months ago and left it alone. It was ranking okay, nothing special. Instead of writing something new, I opened Google Search Console and looked at the Performance report.

Search Console shows you the exact words people type to land on your page. Look at the queries where you are getting impressions but almost no clicks. That gap means people are searching for it, Google is showing your page, but your page is not answering it well enough to earn the click or a higher spot.

I found one term like that. People kept searching a specific question my post touched on but never answered head on. So I added one short section that answered that exact question in the first sentence, then a couple of plain sentences under it. I did not touch anything else on the page.

Within a couple of weeks the page moved to page one for the terms on it. One section. No new post, no backlinks, no ads.

The lesson I keep coming back to: you do not have to guess what to write. Your own data already tells you what people are asking. Go read the queries, find the one you are showing up for but not answering, and answer it plainly. Then leave the rest alone.

Hope this helps someone else.

For those using Reddit as part of your distribution container strategy, what is one lesson you learned early on about adapting your content so it actually resonates here?

Reddit is a learning curve for me with adding flairs, what can be posted in communities, verses on your profile, and in comments

What is a native Reddit feature or habit you ignored at first that turned out to be surprisingly useful for getting your content indexed or read?

For those of you sharing your blog content here on Reddit, what is one subtle thing you changed in how you post or engage that actually moved the needle on traffic?

Have you seen or signed up for the Pro Links here on Reddit?

Got approved email today

I started getting views as soon as I dropped the RSS feed link in

This will be interesting to follow for data

What you can do in the Links tab:

	See where your content is discussedTrack which of your links are generating conversation on Reddit and in which communities.
	Sync your RSS feedConnect your feed so your links are ready to share the moment they publish (note: you still have to share them yourself, this just makes them easy to pull in to posts!).
	Get community recommendationsOur system analyzes your links to suggest the best communities for sharing each piece of content.

I want to share a move that changed how my whole blog works, because most of us in here are building something and nobody really hands you this part.

For years I wrote posts one at a time and just left them there. Each one on its own little island, hoping the right person found the right one.

Two months ago I started something different. I took a whole run of posts on one topic and tied them into a single post that walks a reader through all of it, pointing to each of the smaller ones along the way. That is a hub post.

The payoff shows up in three ways. Your reader gets one door into the whole subject instead of digging through your archive. Your older posts get stronger because they are finally connected to each other. And Google and the AI tools start to see you as someone who owns a whole topic, not someone with a few scattered pieces, which is the thing that actually builds authority.

If you want to try it, open your own blog and find three or four posts you have written on the same theme. I would bet money they are sitting there disconnected right now. That is a hub waiting to happen.

Have you ever built one, or is your blog a pile of islands like mine used to be?

Tell me what topic yours would be about, I am curious.

I want to share a move that changed how my whole blog works, because most of us in here are building something and nobody really hands you this part.

For years I wrote posts one at a time and just left them there. Each one on its own little island, hoping the right person found the right one.

Two months ago I started something different. I took a whole run of posts on one topic and tied them into a single post that walks a reader through all of it, pointing to each of the smaller ones along the way. That is a hub post.

The payoff shows up in three ways. Your reader gets one door into the whole subject instead of digging through your archive. Your older posts get stronger because they are finally connected to each other. And Google and the AI tools start to see you as someone who owns a whole topic, not someone with a few scattered pieces, which is the thing that actually builds authority.

If you want to try it, open your own blog and find three or four posts you have written on the same theme. I would bet money they are sitting there disconnected right now. That is a hub waiting to happen.

Have you ever built one, or is your blog a pile of islands like mine used to be?

Tell me what topic yours would be about, I am curious.

Do you request indexing on every new post, or just let your sitemap handle it?

Something I have gotten a lot more deliberate about over the years is the gap between hitting publish and getting found. The sitemap does its job, but slowly.

Google gets to it on its own schedule, and a new post can sit for days before it is picked up.

On every post, I go into Search Console and request indexing by hand, and I make sure the post has at least one internal link pointing to it before I publish, because that is usually what gets it crawled sooner.

After speaking to lots of bloggers I learned many do not do this as a routine.

Curious how you run yours?

I’ve been trying a small experiment with my newsletter.

Asking someone to subscribe without showing them what they’ll receive always felt like asking them to take a blind leap. I decided to create a public archive where anyone can browse my previous issues before deciding whether the newsletter is right for them.

It also gives older issues a longer life instead of letting them disappear into inbox history. Since making the archive public, I’ve noticed more organic traffic and a steady increase in sign-ups.

You can see how I arranged it on
On my profile

Would a public archive make you more likely to subscribe, or would you read the archive and skip the emails? I’m genuinely curious how other people see it.