u/HealthyDifference538

Yes, they're asking for a selfie or an ID to see NSFW posts, which btw I had posted with that tag and now I can't see my own posts that's how I realized, thought it was a glitch or an internet problem, but no, my jaw dropped when I saw the window for verifying it, I don't wanna give them anything, so, is there another place, I could go (please don't say discord) to ask for stuff and reading interesting info that could be handy, related to salmacians without worrying about my privacy?

I've heard of Lemmy but some say is horrible for a reason I don't know, I believe it was something about how its not user friendly, its like an alternative for reddit, I think? But I don't know where else there is.. It would be cool if somebody made there a group for this in there if it wasn't so bad or some other place that's its safe for everyone.

I'll leave reddit forever, its depressing how things have turned out to be.

p.s. btw its not gonna only be in USA but also in EU countries, dunno which ones but my doomerism is telling me probably all of them

cw for exorsexism, transphobia, discrimination

This random thought has been on the back of my head, but I will answer to myself that hell no, it won't be worth it.

If I did it, its not because of dysphoria per se.. but because I can look in a way that can confuse others, and dont wanna deal with whatever dumb problem may begin because of that.

But what if I get discriminated by it, what if an exorsexist sees that and believes I don't deserve to be treated with basic respect and makes things harder for me? Or put me in situation where my safety is in danger? Especially with medical services, what if they take me seriously even less? Or purposely mess up things for me? Or worse, encountering someone of an authority position, I'm already scared shitless of them already, imagine how I would feel when they see an X in my gender option, what if the most vile person in that type of position sees that? I dont feel protected by them, just threatened, I dont feel like any one of them sees me as a civilian to protect, on the contrary, I wouldn't believe them if they tell me its not how it is.

I feel like I will no longer be seen as a human being with feelings and needs.

My worst fear would be what if the government does a 360° and decides to make my life a living hell?

There's no way to win with the current world we live in, if homophobia, transphobia, exorsexism, didn't exist, I would do it in a beating, because of that, and because the entire government recognizes our existence too, not every country has it, you can't just ask for it, the law has to recognize it or you won't be able to change anything.

The only thing I want, is to live my life with happiness, not harm others, this world is so cruel.

So I don't believe its worth the hassle, but what do you think? Is this belief incorrect?

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edit: correction, I meant AFAB non intersex (honey bee) transfems

I have the feeling this place is one of the few subreddits that its very open minded with the most complex identities/sexualities, although I haven't been too long here so I'm afraid of the response tbh how inclusive is this place? Are honey-bee AFAB non intersex transfems allowed? (intersex too, but mainly, the first one is controversial) I've also seen that masculinity has been quite demonized by queer communities lately, specially when it is a predominant femme space, which is sad to see, as they are isolating their own brothers/siblings/sisters and making them feel unwelcome or making cis or trans or nonbinary men or masc the bad guys when the root of the problem is more convoluted than that. I hope nobody berates me lol don't want to start a fight, just want harmony between everyone :')

(I actually wanted to put a vent tag but there's none)

Wanna get phallo without vaginectomy with UL which has more risk of a lot of complications which can led to being unable to fix it all and being forced to choose between no UL or only phallo. I just want to able to STP. And I think I need to save up a lot of cash too. Fucking great.

Its so depressing seeing all these warnings of "with UL it has a lot of risks" not implying they shouldn't say it, its just is a reminder of what is waiting for me in the future.

And why surgeons are so scared of this specific surgery? I mean, surgeons somehow learned that opening people up certain ways, removing this and that, making this flesh look like that, you can do something that can help the patient in different ways, and there wasn't a manual for them, for the first surgeons, before being a surgeon was a thing, and hell, you will earn a ton of shit of money, right? Ok, I'm being half sarcastic and half serious, so don't take me too seriously on this one.

Well now I'm curious, why is there not a lot of surgeons doing this surgery? I mean, the more they do it, the better they get, no? Or asking for help or researching from other foreigner surgeons that did this surgery and reported/documented it somewhere.

I assume its because its complicated, I'm not knowledgeable on the surgery field so I don't know how things work out.

I'm still gonna do it, still have hope that I might be lucky and everything goes right in the end.

Unrelated kind of, I wonder, was salmacian originally for only intersex people? Why is this a thing? Its curious that its a thing surgeons do as it is not a very "" binary"" sex reaffirming surgery.