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I've struggling with my own gender for a years
I already told everyone about it, and I tell everyone that I was genderfluid, but
Everyone always call me by feminim name never masculine
But in the internet, my online friends support me about it, but sometimes they didn't remember about it, they call me "rhey", which sound more like a woman and a man.
When I come out as trans, they call me "rei" I feel more comfortable about it
"There is still time. You still have time... Don't die in a body and soul that isn't yours. The person you want to be is waiting for you."
Hello again, old man Ratt here. The first trans support group that I attended was before many of you were born and that gives me the gift of perspective.
The vast majority of trans folk want to uplift & support fellow trans folk.
The trans experience is a microcosm of the human experience. You will meet all types of trans people- religious, atheists, vegans, scuba enthusiasts, jerks, hippies, cops... Folks from every walk of life. In the same way that you would not expect to get along with fifty people you randomly meet on a sidewalk, you won't click with everyone on basis of transness alone. There are trans folks who are genuinely hateful, but there are far more decent trans folks trying to live in this scary world.
Social media algorithms know the easiest way to guarantee engagement is through enragement. This is important to keep in mind because as a trans person, the media you consume with will skew wildly towards material which provokes and stokes our collective fears and frustrations. If you keep that in mind that the negative skew is by design, it becomes much easier to avoid falling into the despair hole.
Anyway, that's about all I got. Take care everyone.
For context she calls me her best friend and we talk and call all the time, but she has always hung out and dated a guy who said very nasty things about my identity "if it sounds like a girl thats what im gonna call it" and so forth. I was very hurt not from him, but my friend, because hes an asshole i cant do anything about it, but she dated that person, what does this tell me? I talked to her about that multiple times and that I dont feel comfortable that she keeps making friends who are obviously and outwardly homophobic. But then she started getting lippy with me and implying im dramatizing.
"My parents are homophobic, you want me to stop talking to them too? It seems like no matter what i do, the fact that Im cishet always gets in the way"
No. Its not her identity that gets in the way. It's her blatant ignorance and the fact that she couldn't give less of a shit because the hatred isnt aimed at her and hasnt been her entire life so she has no idea how this feels.
Why call me a best friend if you hang out with people who would/have disrespected me for something u cant control? I dropped the topic with her since we could never find middle ground and im just talking to her less, i got snippy, and i tell her that im not her best friend because she acts this way.
I get that she's lonely, and im not trying to bring her down with me just because im doing badly and my social life is in shambles and because ill probably never be loved. Her behavior just greatly upset me and im holding a grudge. I really want to let go, but i dont know how to. Every time i speak to her i just get reminded of how her desperation makes her hang out with people that hate my existance.
I dont know, i would ask for advice, but this is also a vent. Im torn
24 years old, female to nonbinary (more transmasc).
i’ve been on t since january, so about 9-10 months. i’ve loved the bottom growth, the voice deepening, the muscle definition, flattened breasts, body hair increase,the ease of my mental health/dysphoria, and general weight redistribution. but i’ve been plagued by two big issues lately that have me in a horrible place.
i’ve never had acne on my life but it’s come hard. i was in gel for six months, planned parenthood pushed me to switch to the shot, and the shot brought on painful, deep cystic acne. i switched back to gel after a month but the damage was done. now in a few weeks ill be starting accutane, which makes me nervous about the side effects, which include my other main stressor.
my crown has been thinning like wild. i started 1mg finasteride around the time i switched to the shot, but since then it’s gotten worse. my scalp is much more visible in my crown and pictures from above are horrible. i posted to amibalding subreddit and the answer is yes.
i just don’t know what to do. i feel lost and so emotional about this. to combat it, ive even gone down to one pump of gel for a month now instead of the two pumps i’ve been doing basically since i started. i feel helpless. i only wanted more androgynous features and ended up loving t. but these two side effects have made the last few months horrible for me.
Like I imagine my horse telling her paddock mates: and sometimes, they just start to smell diffferently, change voice and stuff and they are the same as before but also so very different! How do they do it?!?
I feel like I see comments like this outside of Reddit all the time, like a majority of the time that it's making me question whether or not they are unreasonable. I know Instagram comments are rancid but it's usually like... cis people being racist and stuff. I don't really want to bring myself to doubt my trans sisters :,)
To clarify, I do not mean trans women. I’m transfem myself.
I tried to post this to actuallesbians but this got autofiltered.
These men are obviously men. The way the post their pics, abs, cars, nightlife, travel pics to Dubai, how on their info summary they’re a woman but “straight” (so… you’re telling me you’re into dudes?) (I also don’t get why this app is showing me straight women when I am an enby woman looking for nb-inclusive wlw. I know I don’t have that setting, otherwise I’d be drowning in so many cis and trans straight women’s profiles. Straight women exist, yeah?)
(I am not saying which app, maybe these dudes are premium members and will complain, and we all know whom companies listen to.)
I used to also be skeptical about all y’all folks venting about men pretending to be women on dating apps, cause I’d never seen it on Her, Grindr (I had a phase), and another dating app, so I assumed it was just a NA+UK thing, and was wary that some of y’all were being transphobic. Gosh. I believe y’all now. It’s horrible. It’s not horrible that they exist, no, I (want to) love men, but because of the aforementioned.
Because they’re claiming to be “straight” “women”, but they’re obviously looking for women, I can claim homophobia and transphobia, and report them for that. But I also add that I’d met them and know them in person, and I lie that I’d seen them act that way. This makes the app act swiftly to remove the account.
At the same time as I encourage all y’all to do it, I wanna know. What disadvantages does this have? Like with falsely reporting SA hurting real SA victims, or (forgive me for watching shit anime) the Death Note killing unconvicted perceived violent criminals undermining actual justice processes, what harm can this lie do?
Another example was when I came across this woman who claimed up front she’s Zionist. So far, I’ve never met anyone who say they’re Zionist (or in support of a State of Israel) who was not racist towards Arabs, perceived Muslims, or Jewish people, if not all. I reported her for having been racist IRL, despite never having met her.
Spontaneously, I can think that this can be abused by the other sides. Zionists claiming that those who got Free Palestine slogans are publicly encouraging terrorist attacks. Commies reporting apolitical folks, claiming they had been at a white pride march. And men reporting ugly women and/or trans women, claiming they’re catfish, or men - and in turn, using my same tactic, reporting me, claiming I’m being misogynist for “invading women’s spaces”.