u/GalacticApex

So my friend sent me a transphobic post a video about the LGB cut out the tq and the video was filled with transphobia and my friend treated the person in the video talking about this like they had something good to say and they have good intentions I asked him why in the world he would send such a video and he replied saying basically in short terms that some trans people are trans because of porn or a fetish and hrt is unnatural and so on and so forth it was definitely said different then that but as I said in short terms of course I took offence to that no matter how nice you make a bouquet of flowers if you spray it with shit spray it’s gonna smell like shit and idk how to say he is misguided I wanna help but idk how to explain how he is ik it’s not my job to educate people but I want to keep my friends if I can help it yeah idk 🤷🏼‍♀️ (please don’t tell me to just leave the friend ship I don’t want to leave the friendship if I can saying the obvious and easy answer doesn’t always help (edit) I wrote something to respond back when i originally got his message and the video was sent and I do add that he instantly said that he stands against any hate and he is not against me and that it’s good to stay informed and after I ghosted the group chat cus he said all that in the gc he apologized and said he was sorry that it seems like that was done in hate and he’s trying to understand me and he will always be my friend no matter who i chose to be but anyway it goes like this “What you said hurt me you may have not realized it but you were being transphobic I’m glad that you still see me as a friend but your choice of words are not only harmful but also they hurt me hrt has saved many of people steroids and hrt are not the same steroids are usually used to gain muscle and that’s there only use case and they can be used harmfully if not used correctly hrt is to affirm somones gender and it’s safe and a lot of the time life saving it’s not destroying your body when hrt is doing what it’s designed to do hrt is not any different then what cis people use we have the biological system to transition hrt is not necessary but it is not unhealthy and a chemical that’s only words said by people like in that video to make trans lives non existent” and also he compared hrt to unsafe steroid use just for context in the message

I feel like any kind of “support system” I had really isn’t all that supportive I keep getting bit by the lie that my parents support me I’ve told my mom 5 times and every time I’ve felt the least support I’ve ever felt my dad I don’t really know where he stands but ik he doesn’t agree with it ether my brother is my closest ally atm the closest thing I can really call my support system I had have? I’m not sure any more we will say I have friends that i thought supported me but recently they have shown me that they don’t believe in hrt being healthy?? Or helpful the way my friend described it was “you can be a woman with out destroying your body with chemicals” so yeah I’ve yet to respond to that I have a message to reply i just don’t know if it’s really worth it and I was in a trans discord server but it’s slowly dying it’s basically dead and yk like I’m apart of some other community’s that are local but I just don’t like group chats because I get talked over