Are there any organizations out there offering full remote and sustainable workload for senior level employee? My OT hours are just increasing every month. I am okay with working OT on occasion but constantly working 45+ hours per week is not sustainable for me anymore. Or is it just like this for all management level or senior level positions?
I am a new manager and I am about to get promoted to managing a bigger team of people wondering if anyone has any advice on getting a coach or mentor?
I know I have some things that I need to develop such as being able to hold others accountable and have difficult conversations and overall just be a leader. I think I have a hard time with not wanting to upset people or people to take me personal.
I notice some people deliver messages so well and build a team that is so cohesive. Though even those leaders still have people that are dissatisfied but it doesn’t seem to affect the workflow.
Just scared that I will rub people the wrong way and not end up with people who want to continue to put out work because we work in a high pressure fast moving environment with honestly too much work. But need to keep people motivated. And I know I have differing view points than some that I will manage and have already experienced some people get upset when I ask them to change something etc.
There is another employee when I ask them to make a change that they don’t understand mostly due to their lack of experience. I try and explain the why as clearly as possible even with visuals and if they still don’t get it, instead of saying okay will make that change, they will continue to question “but…” and after the third time of yes that is true however this other thing occurred so this is not correct it needs to change to this or that. And you can just hear the frustration in their voice before they change it. And so many times this one person has gone through these conversations and once in a while in low risk situations I’m like okay do it your way and let’s see what that looks like every single time they end up with a mess as predicted and they end up with more work for themselves. But if they would have just been open to suggestion it would have turned out different. I’m fine with letting someone make their own consequences especially when they refuse to take advice, but they also aren’t very accountable to understand I tried helping, they wanted it their way, this is the result. In their head, “no one knows what they are talking about or doing and because of that I am making these mistakes…” I’ve heard them say very similar things. This same person also says they are good with criticism and asks for it. But almost in a “tell me something bad about myself” type of way. I will say everything in real time and have told them that I have nothing else to say and they keep pushing for me to say something almost like they are trying to get me to say something rude or negative and they will have something to fight about or say about me.
Besides all of that when they get feedback on things to change they push back, they say this means they do poorly at their job, when they are being explained a situation they think the person is “condescending” or “bullish” in their approach. Even though they are told this doesn’t mean they are bad, just have to fix these things. They are told I have made same mistakes no problem just fix it. They have also been asked if there is a better way they would like to receive explanations or training. The employee just says no everything is fine this is how they learn. Very hard as they seem to want to improve but lack development of personal accountability. There is nothing personal I have just been trying so hard and don’t know what else to do.
This attitude can become poison for a group. I worked in a different place where it was heavily filled with people like this it was so toxic. Before this person came the overall group was very positive so just want to keep the positivity.
I can see some problems coming and need a coach or mentor that I can talk to at least the first year to help me develop these skills and my own perspective on things.
Curious where you guys are buying your hair accessories for 4 to 5 year-old girls with thin fine hair I would like to get her some matching bows that she can use whenever she’s wearing pigtails and stuff like that. I don’t even know what size I should be looking for every time I order online somehow I’m getting like baby size things that don’t look right on her hair or their humongous sizes that don’t look right on her hair cause her hair is so thin just need a little help.
What are your evening routine like with a four year-old? I am a single parent to a four year-old. I get off work at 4:30. I have to go pick them up and then we get home by five and I am exhausted from my day so sometimes I’m cooking something very quick and easy occasionally when I have more energy, I cook a bigger meal which takes longer but my four-year-old wants constant entertainment and attention and again I’m exhausted. I think one answer to my problems is to create an evening routine and we do have one before bed but between five and 730. It’s very open and I think that makes my daughter anxious and it makes me anxious because I’m constantly trying to figure out how to entertain her and rest and cook and clean just wondering what you all do
How do you handle going from peer to manager? I have recently seen someone in a similar situation and they became an enemy rather quickly but they also didn’t care to have relationships with people so they don’t seem bothered by that at all.
I on the other hand try to build relationships with people. I have been promoted 3 times now moving up to a low level manager. Each promotion, though the first two were none management people slowly dropped off like flies and it does bother me each time. It’s just uncomfortable to know people don’t like you and avoid you.
Certain people stopped engaging with me in conversations, now I’m in this low level management position and I realize I can’t really engage like I used to as I need to keep it professional.
At this time I’m not the manager of most of my previous peers, as I am managing new employees, but I will have an opportunity coming up where this could happen and I need to know how you handle this?
I can already see the pushback, arguments of why they need to do something, attitude when I ask them to do something, having to ask multiples times and them wanting to verify with someone else etc. they do this already when I cover as manager. When I am covering it isn’t a big deal as they eventually answer to someone else but when I am their full time manager how does that go?
Also will say what I saw with another manager is this team of people that kicked me out of their circle after my first promotion, tried to get an alliance against the boss at that time. I was invited to one of those meetings but it was totally out of pocket. They were ranting about changes and they were needed changes so I didn’t have anything to add to stay part of that. That boss was beyond fair to all of us, and probably even loyal tot he ring leader that pulled that stunt. The boss always promoted them and made sure they got a good portion of the bonuses etc and it was so crazy to me to see these unappreciative people acting like kids. I don’t think anything came of it. But I’m an even less experienced manager what if they do this to me and get me in trouble idk these are just fears if I make a dumb mistake as I am sure I will make some figuring it out at first.