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This might be silly to some but I’ve always been very in sync with my body and no matter what I search online I can’t explain what’s happening to me when I sleep.

For some background this has happened several times over the past 10 years. Never back to back. Once and then several months later it happens again.

This morning at 2:45 am I woke up to a “zap” and a bang sound somewhere in the house. My husband is on night shift so he wasn’t home. Just me, my toddler and my 3 dogs. My dogs bark at everything normally but they didn’t bark at the noise. As for a “zap” I don’t know how to describe it. Imagine being electrocuted or having a seizure, your whole body freezing but shakes severely. Like that. Several times over the last 10ish years I’ve been in deep sleep and I can feel someone angry standing over me screaming. But I can’t see them and I can’t hear the scream I can only feel my body vibrating. It’s happened during naps and overnight. I’ll be asleep, eyes completely closed and suddenly I can feel thumping on the floor of someone run up to the side of my bed and silently screaming at me but I can’t hear them I just start “seizing”. I don’t stay frozen like this, I’ve always been able to instantly realize I’m asleep and tell myself “wake up NOW” and poof my eyes open and there’s nothing. Sometimes the house is silent and sometimes like tonight there’s a bang somewhere in the house but my animals never react to it.

It’s always different sleep positions, and different times of day, and it’s happened in 3 houses over the years. Only one thing is common about every occurrence, I’m always alone. This instance my toddler was in the bed with me and he slept through it but other than that every time it’s ever happened I’ve been alone and I can’t tell if I dreamed it or if I was actually physically shaking.

I don’t have a history of lucid dreaming or sleep paralysis so I’m not familiar if there’s different levels to that stuff or not? But like I said I’m always able to think mid “seizure” consciously that “youre sleeping, you need to hurry, wake up NOW” and poof I wake up my ears are ringing a little and I’m not frozen or anything like the usual stories of sleep paralysis that I’ve heard. I’m always able to move and I never actually see anything. I can only feel everything. I can feel someone running up to my bed, standing over me, angry and screaming and I can feel my body shaking. But I have no proof, no witness and thanks to my fruitless internet searches I have no clues either.

Tonight, whoever I couldnt see, whoever was screaming, was still there for a few minutes after I woke up. I rolled over and I could feel someone behind me just staring; my ears ringing for longer than usual. Now I’m on Reddit…

This might be silly to some but I’ve always been very in sync with my body and no matter what I search online I can’t explain what’s happening to me when I sleep.

For some background this has happened several times over the past 10 years. Never back to back. Once and then several months later it happens again.

This morning at 2:45 am I woke up to a “zap” and a bang sound somewhere in the house. My husband is on night shift so he wasn’t home. Just me, my toddler and my 3 dogs. My dogs bark at everything normally but they didn’t bark at the noise. As for a “zap” I don’t know how to describe it. Imagine being electrocuted or having a seizure, your whole body freezing but shakes severely. Like that. Several times over the last 10ish years I’ve been in deep sleep and I can feel someone angry standing over me screaming. But I can’t see them and I can’t hear the scream I can only feel my body vibrating. It’s happened during naps and overnight. I’ll be asleep, eyes completely closed and suddenly I can feel thumping on the floor of someone run up to the side of my bed and silently screaming at me but I can’t hear them I just start “seizing”. I don’t stay frozen like this, I’ve always been able to instantly realize I’m asleep and tell myself “wake up NOW” and poof my eyes open and there’s nothing. Sometimes the house is silent and sometimes like tonight there’s a bang somewhere in the house but my animals never react to it.

It’s always different sleep positions, and different times of day, and it’s happened in 3 houses over the years. Only one thing is common about every occurrence, I’m always alone. This instance my toddler was in the bed with me and he slept through it but other than that every time it’s ever happened I’ve been alone and I can’t tell if I dreamed it or if I was actually physically shaking.

I don’t have a history of lucid dreaming or sleep paralysis so I’m not familiar if there’s different levels to that stuff or not? But like I said I’m always able to think mid “seizure” consciously that “youre sleeping, you need to hurry, wake up NOW” and poof I wake up my ears are ringing a little and I’m not frozen or anything like the usual stories of sleep paralysis that I’ve heard. I’m always able to move and I never actually see anything. I can only feel everything. I can feel someone running up to my bed, standing over me, angry and screaming and I can feel my body shaking. But I have no proof, no witness and thanks to my fruitless internet searches I have no clues either.

Tonight, whoever I couldnt see, whoever was screaming, was still there for a few minutes after I woke up. I rolled over and I could feel someone behind me just staring; my ears ringing for longer than usual. Now I’m on Reddit…

This might be silly to some but I’ve always been very in sync with my body and no matter what I search online I can’t explain what’s happening to me when I sleep.

For some background this has happened several times over the past 10 years. Never back to back. Once and then several months later it happens again.

This morning at 2:45 am I woke up to a “zap” and a bang sound somewhere in the house. My husband is on night shift so he wasn’t home. Just me, my toddler and my 3 dogs. My dogs bark at everything normally but they didn’t bark at the noise. As for a “zap” I don’t know how to describe it. Imagine being electrocuted or having a seizure, your whole body freezing but shakes severely. Like that. Several times over the last 10ish years I’ve been in deep sleep and I can feel someone angry standing over me screaming. But I can’t see them and I can’t hear the scream I can only feel my body vibrating. It’s happened during naps and overnight. I’ll be asleep, eyes completely closed and suddenly I can feel thumping on the floor of someone run up to the side of my bed and silently screaming at me but I can’t hear them I just start “seizing”. I don’t stay frozen like this, I’ve always been able to instantly realize I’m asleep and tell myself “wake up NOW” and poof my eyes open and there’s nothing. Sometimes the house is silent and sometimes like tonight there’s a bang somewhere in the house but my animals never react to it.

It’s always different sleep positions, and different times of day, and it’s happened in 3 houses over the years. Only one thing is common about every occurrence, I’m always alone. This instance my toddler was in the bed with me and he slept through it but other than that every time it’s ever happened I’ve been alone and I can’t tell if I dreamed it or if I was actually physically shaking.

I don’t have a history of lucid dreaming or sleep paralysis so I’m not familiar if there’s different levels to that stuff or not? But like I said I’m always able to think mid “seizure” consciously that “youre sleeping, you need to hurry, wake up NOW” and poof I wake up my ears are ringing a little and I’m not frozen or anything like the usual stories of sleep paralysis that I’ve heard. I’m always able to move and I never actually see anything. I can only feel everything. I can feel someone running up to my bed, standing over me, angry and screaming and I can feel my body shaking. But I have no proof, no witness and thanks to my fruitless internet searches I have no clues either.

Tonight, whoever I couldnt see, whoever was screaming, was still there for a few minutes after I woke up. I rolled over and I could feel someone behind me just staring; my ears ringing for longer than usual. Now I’m on Reddit…

I have two younger brothers who have both managed to have children with absolutely horrid women. These women have put our family through hell for years now and we’re all so exhausted. Even as a feminist, I am not blind to someone truly ugly in spirit—so I refuse to let the girl’s-girl side of me let their behavior slide.

This post is specifically about my middle brother’s wife. They purposely pregnant a month into dating and now have been together for 2.5 years. My niece is about to turn 2. I recognize their relationship is toxic and they both make bad decisions. But she’s always been the instigator somehow and she’s literally mentally off. I can’t put my finger on what’s wrong with her brain but for lack of better words she’s nuts. Without going into specifics here’s some things she’s done:

-allowed her racist Mexican family to verbally abuse my brother (my brother is half Mexican and half black) and threaten him with weapons in hand
-said to my brothers face and her friends that she was “going to break up with him after the babyshower anyway”
-gave the nurses a fake name but similar name for my brother so that when they called him back to L&D they wouldn’t let him in because he wasn’t on the list
-FaceTimed her EX (who is also her first child’s father) DURING the delivery. Literally the entire time she was laboring he was on video chat with her mom holding the phone for her. (Same ex also used to beat her and went to jail for it) my mom and brother were in the room and couldn’t do anything because they didn’t want to risk being thrown out
-said to his face she was going to “break up with him after the birth”
-once my mom went to give my brother a ride somewhere and during the drive to go get him she called my mom to say they were breaking up. Mom picked up brother and asked what was going on, my brother was confused because they weren’t even arguing at the time so he confronted his gf about the statement on speaker phone still in the car and she said my mom was a liar and she never said that (wtf was the purpose of all that)
-she used to call my brother at work to initiate arguments with different drama every time. Once she even said “if you don’t come home now I’m leaving the baby on the bed until you get here.”
-they got married this past year (still can’t wrap my head around why he would tie himself to her legally after all this) and she has already cheated on him with proof and lied about it. He stayed with her.

There are so many more stories between these, you wouldn’t be able to fathom. I’m currently pregnant and this is all I can remember right now because I’m flustered. My brother recently joined the army to support their family. He’s away at basic as we speak so he has no access to his phone right now. Last night sister in law found old messages of his (idk how) where he talks to someone about things he likes sexually. She was so upset she posted screenshots on X(Twitter) to all their friends. These things aren’t even bad but to someone homophobic or toxically masculine (which a lot of my brother’s friends are) they are world-shattering messages.

My brother is 3000 miles from home, and has no idea. Hes out trying to make a living for their family and she was willing to humiliate him. Her husband/child’s father. Online—In front of family and friends.

Im so at a loss for words. Ive been crying all morning because this has been nonstop for years and im exhausted. My brother is a middle child and has always had this kind of sad underdog mentality to him. I fear if he finds out what his wife has done now, he’s going to unalive himself. Our family is not judgmental people and we have never cared about sexual preferences. But this world isn’t as welcoming as us and this is a side of himself he’s always been ashamed of. Sexuality is private and sensitive topic especially regarding men in society. I can’t understand why someone would hurt their spouse this way.

I don’t even know why I’m writing this. I just have no idea what to do. I’m sure my mom has been crying all night for fear of him finding out. Everyone in our family is hurt because we keep trying to support his relationship and we keep getting slapped in the face. Where do we even go from here. I’m scared that if he doesn’t take his own life he might just be crazy enough to STAY with her. And I don’t even think I can handle any more. I love him so much, I think I may have to go no contact if he chooses to stay. I know this isn’t my problem and I know he has to be strong enough to leave but how am I supposed to sit idly by and allow someone I love to be mentally abused. What if she allows her family to abuse my mixed race niece in similar ways they’ve hurt my brother?! And if I do go no contact, how am I supposed to live with the fact that he may die either literally or mentally at the hands of her and I wasn’t there to support him. As an oldest sister this is eating me alive.