Grandparents taking their grandson from his father
You read it right. Usually, fathers leave their sons their grandparents. But this time around, the grandparents took their grandchild from their father - even though he is living peacefully with them.
My husband has an illegitimate son. His mother abandoned him while I treated him as my own. Actually, we are in the process of adopting him. He is also living with us prior the event. He is close to his grandparents because they practically raised him until he was 3 years old (my husband was working abroad), then we got married, and took him. But for another 3 years, my MIL was living with us saying that she cannot live with my FIL anymore and he will miss his grandson. That time, we allowed it.
The situation changed when we had our own biological child. My MIL was interfering of how I raise him and even impacted his safety. So my husband decided to tell her in a good way to go back with my FIL, but of course she took it negatively.
We were living happily for some time. My son and stepson were bonding, we were running our household nicely.. then one day, the grandparents arrived unannounced asking for my stepson, saying they wanted him to have vacation at their place. We agreed thinking thay it might be good for our stepson since he was diagnosed with autism and ADHD. Then afterwards, they came back after 2 weeks saying that he will live with them and he has already enrolled there.
Of course, my husband did not agree even after they persuaded him. He is our son. I think it is just normal. My FIL has an attitude, for several months he would send threats to my husband saying that he will kill him if he will not let them see their grandson. He just ignores them since he still respects them. But my FIL said that again during their visit, with allegations even that my husband is hurting our son, which is a complete lie. The event escalated and they ended up hurting each other and taking my stepson. But the thing is, my stepson preferred to be with them which hurts us a lot. But due to his condition, we are worried as well that he is not in a position to decide and due to the fact as well that he is just 7 years old. Even after we conceded regarding my stepson, my FIL are still sending my husband threats and whatnot which makes me feel unsafe, especially for my babies.
The situation is very stressful for me, since I have also just given birth to another son and I am in post partum.