u/Heavy_Cry_2034

Nobody prepared me for how physically uncomfortable breastfeeding could be.

My back hurts constantly, my arms go numb holding the baby in place, and I spend half the feed trying to keep a decent latch without both of us getting frustrated.

I feel like I can never fully relax because I’m always adjusting something.

Sometimes I genuinely dread the next feeding because I know it’s going to be another stressful setup.

Is this actually common for other moms too?

I feel awful admitting this, but feeding my baby has become the most stressful part of my day.

Every session feels like constant repositioning. Adjusting pillows, fixing the latch, switching sides, sitting in weird positions trying not to hurt my neck or shoulders.

And even when things seem okay, I’m still anxious wondering if he’s swallowing correctly or getting too much milk too fast.

I thought breastfeeding would eventually feel natural but honestly I still feel tense every single time.

Does anyone else struggle like this or is it just me?

I swear I spend more time adjusting myself than actually feeding my baby.

I start in one position, then my arm goes numb, then my back hurts, then baby slips off the latch, then I need another pillow, then I’m worried he’s too flat or too upright. By the time we finally settle, he’s frustrated and I’m sweating.

I genuinely thought breastfeeding would feel more natural eventually but right now every feed feels like setting up an engineering project.

Please tell me I’m not the only one struggling this much with positioning.

I want to lose weight, but I find myself struggling with a disordered relationship with food and a lack of control over my eating habits. This leads to intense hunger and cravings, resulting in my weight remaining the same without any progress. Does anyone else experience this?