How do I deal with overly nagging and narcissistic parents?
TLDR: How do I deal with an abusive father and an enabling/narcissistic mother? I am a teenager.
I (F, 18 Y/O) have a hard time building and applying boundaries from my mother (F47) and father (M49).
I live in a household where my father constanty drinks alcohol every night (to relax, according to him) but he always gets irritated and easily angered and agitated whenever someone, especially my mother, does something wrong. I think it has always been his way of releasing his stress/anger because of his problematic and narcissistic personality. The last time I contronted him and told him exactly this, he was still in denial and was a literal asshole. Always have been, anyways.
The problem is that this cycle keeps repeating and it just takes a toll on my sleep every time they fight. I’ve always been the mediator between my parents, and it is SO SO exhausting to be in this kind of position. And the problem is my mom would not even leave my abusive dad because he mainly provides for us. He would even shame my mom about petty things BUT always says that I should not mind it because i am his daughter. Even says that he loves me so much he wouldn’t dare hurt me but his verbally and physically abusive behaviour towards my mom says otherwise.
How do I even set boundaries with these kind of parents? Ive always tried to seek help from counselors at school but this has been a cycle in our home.