u/Helpful-Bug6464

So my co-parent has a partner (I don’t wanna say new but she hasn’t been here for over a year yet.) however my husband has been in my sons life since he was 1 he is now turning 5.

My son calls his bio dad and my husband both dada/daddy. And honestly no one told him to, he just started it on his own. And my husband and I actually led with using my husbands real name at the beginning once we realized my son wasn’t changing his mind, we just let him choose because telling him he can’t call someone “dad” honestly felt wrong if that’s just how he felt.

Anyways in a conversation with my son he mentioned he didn’t like his dad’s spouse and that she was “mean”. Automated mom mode wants to assume the worst, “why can a 4 year old think you are mean when he is overall the happiest child”. In the questions I asked I think I just came to the conclusion he just doesn’t want to call anyone else “mom” and he only wants 1 mom. I wanna just leave it at this because he’s only 4 and honestly sometimes he can be a jackass for 4 lmao 😂 but I don’t wanna overlook something and I should’ve asked more questions.

Do I talk to my co-parent or just let it go? Or do I talk to my child only and ask more questions?

Edit: if it is truly she’s “mean” because he doesn’t want to call another person mom. But how do I get him to not equate that to being mean? I don’t want him to call her that if she truly is nice.

On a serious note, is something a little off with all of these couples? Like there is maybe “reasonable ones” like Trish and Annalyn. But everyone else I just felt like wasn’t in adult state minds. Maybe it was just the tell off vibes, but I feel like we had a lot of side discussions on why they felt Sheena was wrong. But never addressed it being HER MONEY and she’s the only one currently supporting herself and for forest “in the future”. Like she’s allowed to do what she wants and Elise and Emma saying they don’t like her, like they would be okay with someone telling them what they can and can’t do with their money… let alone imagine if Emma was told she was the only one having to save up for money for another person who “technically” can work.

The Daniel and Lisa “cursed” by the African priest, was also a thrower like I feel like I needed Angela, Big Ed, Jovi, Yara , even Jasmine and Gino type energy on stage because had this been a couple during their seasons I would’ve gotten some actual questioning. (and that’s saying a lot lmao 😂)

Idk maybe I’m missing a little more cast drama this season, and I definitely get a lot more 🦜 (bird) energy from people.