u/Helpful-Pension1046

How do you all make/ keep friends having AUDHD? Really want to make a friend but really worried about overanalyzing and pushing them away or coming across as too much

Just want to list some of the traits I have while they're on my mind and see if any of you can relate to them

~whenever I take my dog for a walk I always walk him the same routes and if I'm to walk him a different route it's somewhere I find really familiar otherwise my anxiety will just build up, especially if there's a lot of people around

~ always seem to wear the same clothing. Obviously wash them but once they're washed set them out for the next day as they just feel comfortable and I don't like the change unless I am to go shopping for that specific reason to get new clothes.

~ always seem to listen to the same music and same singer as their music is amazing and relatable but when I was going through my diagnosis they thought it was good I had an interest but this was one of the special interest related to my autism too , and the hyper focus of the ADHD .

~ automatically have to think and pause while responding back to somebody that the lights are working. It's just about that we are and also it's like I'm thinking into space before I respond back to them and so I don't say the wrong thing and feel that I'm coming across ok and clear.

~ over analyse everything I've said hours after it happened and sometimes forget to say something in the moment and then replay it in my head for hours kicking myself mentally that I didn't say it when it's too late.

~ repeat the same words such as nice one and ideal as they just feel safe and I worry that I don't have a lot of things to say or run out of things to say.

~ eye contact always feels way too invasive if held for too long , the anxiety is awful

~ texting when being left on read feels like the end of the world , I've already analysed that they dislike me , I've annoyed them , even though they may be busy my brain always looks for negative patterns that I'm being rejected

There is more but these are the main ones

Sending you all big hugs and lots of love it's not easy but we are only human and are strong! showing up everyday we're doing our best ❤️

Hi everyone, so I've had one of them days today where I've just felt so self-conscious wherever I've gone I felt that everyone's looking at me hating on me and I just feel like I don't belong in the same area as them and I know that sounds so sad but that's the way I feel. Does anyone else journal as I went to therapy earlier and they mentioned something about journalling and how it does help but I just want any tips as I struggle to be consistent with things, and I just keep thinking like 5 months ahead about what I'm going to do in my life and finding it hard to live in the present

I always feel left out in conversations in work , I'm the one always making the effort to join conversations , I get corrected sometimes when I do something wrong and I feel some people are different around me in a negative way around people to try and put me down as I come across a smiley person but when I catch onto this vibe my mood changes and I feel like I'm walking on egg shells and become so observant

I feel so anxious when I haven't got a reply back I overanalyze it so much if I'm trying to have a conversation with someone and I felt that the message was replyable and I see the two blue ticks then , I feel have I done something wrong ,was I too much, do they think I'm weird now, the list goes on

I don't know why but I always think the worst in a situation where a person who hasn't messaged me for months just pops up to me. Even just asking how I am. I just feel like they're only doing it because I'm their last option to message and I felt like this for years even before being diagnosed and then I overanalyze things saying do they know this person that I was talking to and then have they been having like a conversation about me and it's just an ongoing brain cycle. Can anyone else tell me im not going insane?

Anyone else get a massive spurt of energy like me and impulsively put on music and start dancing thinking they're in a music video because that is me 85.5% of the time 🤣❤️

Guys I feel so good and proud of myself I know it may seem small to some but I finally had the mental energy to tidy my room I still got one surface to polish and tidy but it looks so much better than it did before! With working long shifts too it took it out of me but I am off today and I wanted to use most of my energy on my room and I'm so happy I did. It's cleared my mind lots

Anyone else when they're driving hate when you cross eyes with other drivers because I do! it makes me feel so anxious

Since being diagnosed I feel lonely 🥺 I don't know what it is I think I'm so up in my head , don't get me wrong I felt abit lonely beforehand as I really struggle with friendships and maintaining them but I am just feeling very down 😔

It's my birthday tomorrow and I've treated myself to a Japanese head spa because I deserve love too💛💕