I don't know what it is , I try and glance to look around in public , maybe my eyecontact looks forced and I get looks back and then I feel anxious that they hate me and think I'm weird when they don't even know me and start questioning myself and then I feel uneasy , I'm also audhd.
I don't know what it is , I try and glance to look around in public , maybe my eyecontact looks forced and I get looks back and then I feel anxious that they hate me and think I'm weird when they don't even know me and start questioning myself and then I feel uneasy
Anyone else get told they're "too nice" I am a people pleaser and don't like people feeling guilty or sad and I even make excuses for their downfall as I don't like seeing people down , but when I'm down no one's does this for me, but it's just the way I am as I have a big heart .
So I work 12-hour shifts but I have ADHD combined and autism and my days off I literally have hardly any energy whatsoever like today. I slept until nearly the afternoon and getting ready few a hours later and I feel like I haven't achieved anything today. My parents are a bit concerned as they want me to try and push myself to get out there and to make friends but I literally don't know where to start as such and the thought of it is overwhelming, I personally do want to make friends but at the same time I struggle to balance having friendships and my own life as I get too invested in friendships all at once. And that's what worries me because I do want to have friends as I currently have no friends but I just find it hard maintaining them and with messaging, messaging too much is my struggle, like as soon as I get a message I feel the need to respond.
What it is. I find it so hard to stop and think before I reply to people, I usually reply instantly to people over message and then once I've processed it I regret my decision and of what I've said and I just really want to learn how to stop and process things instead of impulsively reacting without thinking. I also feel like I have the tendency to people Please a lot and ask for their advice but sometimes do the opposite. And then procrastinate about it for days , if not weeks.
Why do I always seem to over explain myself and ask for second opinions , it seems as for reassurance but then I go off what I think is right , and second guess things if I feel they're important to hold myself accountable, I just keep beating myself up in my head about it , I am audhd😔
Anyone else feel so nervous before going shopping or going out with the house to places as I wind myself up so much before I actually do something or before its even happened. For example, what goes round in my head is who will I see? What will they think of me? How will I come across , Anticipating how it's going to go.
My brain is going a thousand miles an hour, why do I feel the need to reach out to somebody I used to talk to but they're no good for me and something tells me that I'm doing it just for kindness but at the same time I look like a mug and I just hate myself for this , my mind just seems consumed as they were someone I trusted .
Anyone else like me and is nice to every single person they meet but sometimes they're not nice to you and they can come across. So sarcastic at times and I think it's such a big shame because I wish the world could just be a happy place and not everyone be the same but people to just have respect, but I know people go through things but I just find it hard to live in a world where there's so much negativity, I get told that im too nice from people and it can really come across as patronising as I don't want people to take advantage but at the same time I'd rather be nice than horrible
When I speak to people I find it so hard to initiate conversations about a topic and when I do I feel it's all jumbled , I was asked a question once in work and I paused and they were like it doesn't matter to end the topic and asked someone else , I felt so uncomfortable and frustrated with myself after .
Does anyone else always ruminate and procrastinate about what could have been, that feeling and thought keeps looping and lingering in their brain ? Especially if it's a person you got close to and trusted , the feeling just hurts and I want to get over this feeling so much and stop self sabotaging
I have a thing that I keep beating myself up about for over a month almost and in context I probably didn't do anything wrong but my feelings got stronger once I got close to this one boy when he didn't want a relationship
I find it so hard to stick to healthy eating / dieting , I start off so well and then when I have a bad day it continues and then whatever mood I'm in I always seem to turn to food , any advice pls
Going to watch a concert on my own tonight 😀
Constantly overthinking and self doubt feels so high right now what helps you guys?
And what I mean by this I feel like I have to forcefully do eye contact as s I don't know where to put my eyes without cooking across rude or too much , I wish it happened naturally but I notice I do this all the time. What doesn't add up is at home with my parents I feel it comes out naturally but with others I feel it's forced , is it because I'm masking in public ?
Anyone else struggle with explaining how you feel in person , I can explain how I feel over text better but still not to the extent I'd want to as i think about it too much and as a result end up missing things out and not knowing how I truly feel but still feeling that anxiety and I think it takes me a while to process things.
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Throughout my whole life I've struggled with the thought of rejection from childhood. Does anyone else like me scan with their eyes in public and it comes across like you might be staring at someone? And then they look at me Weird as I come across so serious , because that happens to me constantly. I'm super hyper vigilant and I'm really want to tone it down and avoid doing this, anyone have any advice on how to stop?
I fear I'll never know who I actually am as a person and it makes me feel so sad 😔 any advice on this would be greatly appreciated please x
When something feels uncomfortable in public or work or someone says something that doesn't agree with your nervous system your body tries to do everything to protect you and you do end up reacting negatively such as facial expressions towards the other person , not to be malicious but you just wouldn't speak to anyone the way they speak to you .