u/Helpful_Put_3209

I’m curious what people’s real-life experiences have been.
For a serious, long-term relationship, would you rather be with someone you’re extremely physically attracted to, or someone who’s maybe not your ideal physically but is incredibly loyal, feminine, supportive, affectionate, and consistently makes you feel valued?
Assume both people are genuinely interested in you and would be good partners overall. Which would you choose, and what has worked better in your experience?

for context im 26M.

I'm a guy in my mid ‘27M’ dating a woman ‘25F’. We've been dating for about 5-6 months and she recently asked to make things official.

What's confusing me is the contrast between her actions with me versus what she's told me about her past.

With me:
She's been very consistent for 5+ months.

Exclusive and claims she didn’t talk to anyone else since meeting me.

She was interested in me first.

She asked to make the relationship official.

Introduced me to friends.

Checks in on me, cooks for me, pays for dates sometimes, etc.

We've only had sex a couple of times over 5 months, mostly due to schedules, living situations, and her generally being more relationship-focused.

In her past:
She's had a few relationships.

From what she's told me, things became sexual much faster in her last situationship. and the situationship was basically just sex when she wanted more, so she left.

What I'm trying to understand is this:

If a woman is genuinely interested in a guy, does infrequent sex necessarily mean lower attraction? Or can it actually be a sign that she's building attachment differently?

Based on her actions, she seems heavily invested in me. I'm curious what both men and women think.