u/HerBloomEra

My daughter went to stay with her dad this weekend. This is the first time he has spent time with her this year. I was hesitant about it but her older sister is visiting so I agreed. I did not hear any confirmation she was picked up from camp yesterday. I checked on her location and they were about 45 minutes away from home. Fine. I then realized this seem like the address of the woman he cheated with and recently had a baby.

Backstory: Before we separated he was cheating on me with a girl. A few months after I left a baby came out of it. We still own a house together that I’m currently getting a lawyer to do a force to sell.

I reached out he didn’t respond for 2 hours then told me to get a grip. That I don’t make her talk to him when she’s with me. (Mind you he just text her) she’s 7. Pick up a phone to call. Ask to see her.

In all of this I’ve had mixed feelings about this. Should he mention to me he’s bringing her around this new lady and baby? Especially since he hasn’t seen her in months? Or is this okay? Do I need to just heal and move forward let it be? I am trying to work through all these feelings I have been feeling.

My child’s father has not been involved with our daughter the entire year. His oldest daughter always visits in July. I saw him texting her iPad saying I can’t wait to see you. Counting down the days. I reach out because no communication has been brought to me. He says I’m getting her on the 1st. I proceed to say no because I made camp arrangements already. I told him about months ago when I asked vacation days. He begins to get upset finally said okay. He will not have her from the 11th through the 31st. Ever since setting these plans I have been on edge and crying. I don’t know to relieve this. I know this will be time to myself but it’s hard when he hasn’t been consistently in her life since we separated. He’ll see her this month then disappear again or act too busy. Should I just suck it up and do things for me for the month? Just want advice on managing my feelings.

My child’s father has not been involved with our daughter the entire year. His oldest daughter always visits in July. I saw him texting her iPad saying I can’t wait to see you. Counting down the days. I reach out because no communication has been brought to me. He says I’m getting her on the 1st. I proceed to say no because I made camp arrangements already. I told him about months ago when I asked vacation days. He begins to get upset finally said okay. He will not have her from the 11th through the 31st. Ever since setting these plans I have been on edge and crying. I don’t know to relieve this. I know this will be time to myself but it’s hard when he hasn’t been consistently in her life since we separated. He’ll see her this month then disappear again or act too busy. Should I just suck it up and do things for me for the month? Just want advice on managing my feelings.

My daughter is 7 and her dad communicates through texting on her iPad. He hasn’t seen her in months. Yesterday she spent it with my dad since he was visiting for the week. Around 7 I received a message saying “so you can’t tell her to text or call me?” I try to put my feelings aside in this whole situation but it’s hard at times. Was it wrong I didn’t tell her to say happy Father’s Day?

My daughters dad has not been present much since we separated. The last time he spent genuine time with her was last October. He did not show up for her dance recital claiming he had no ride. Recently I have asked for support from him physically and financially. He declined financially saying I’m not helping him in anyway. Child support is still processing and it’s been 7 months. I also asked about him helping watch her and no response. When I said of course you never help he tells me to fuck off. The next day following he asks to see her and I decline because she needed her hair washed after camp. I know in July he will try to get her and play dad because his oldest daughter is coming. I signed her up for camp which it’s no guarantee he’ll get her there. I’m unsure what I should do. We have no agreement. The inconsistency in her life always affects her behaviors/moods.