u/Herbizarre17

PwBPD told me they won’t be affectionate with me unless I let them go through my phone. They think I’m cheating but I’m not. I have no reason to lie to anonymous people on Reddit so I mean it when I say I’m not. I just really don’t like people going through my phone. I don’t like my friends to do it or my partner with BPD or anyone else. It doesn’t feel fair that I’m being asked to do this when all I’ve seemingly done wrong is value my privacy. Is this normal in a relationship? I would probably consider letting someone I’m dating go through my phone but she’s made such a big deal about it that now it feels weird and like I’m sacrificing something I shouldn’t be sacrificing, just to make her feel better when I haven’t even done anything wrong

I was talking to my pwBPD earlier in a lighthearted conversation about when we found out our son would be born. Turns out, we both have very different memories of telling my parents about it. She combined the time we told them she was pregnant with the time we told them we were getting married. I tried to explain this but she got very very angry and insisted I was wrong. So I said something like maybe we both are misremembering and such. I made it clear I did not want to argue about this. But she pressed on. It wasnt enough for me to say I might be wrong (I’m not and I actually have proof of it) but she would not stop. She even went so far as to say the events I was describing did not happen at all. Those were two major life events for me and I remember those days very clearly. To be told they didn’t happen at all is very hurtful and belittling. I refused to acknowledge it and stopped the discussion.

I have tried to tell her the way she “plays” is just hurting. She will play punch and bite and it isn’t fun. She bit my hand while playing, I asked her to stop, so she did and went to the restroom. While she was in there, I noticed I was bleeding where she had bit me. When she came out, I told her what happened and to not do that so hard next time, no big deal. She flipped out and told me she didn’t do that. That my bleeding must have been from something else. She tried to tell me I had a cat scratch on my hand and her teeth must have reopened it or something. I know my own hand and I know what happened. I didn’t expect this response from her so I stared at her a second, unsure of what to say, and she accused me of staring at her like she’s a crazy monster. Another time, she play punched me in the arm. I knew it would bruise the second I felt it. Sure enough, a big black bruise the next day on my arm. I told her about it and she denied it again, saying I must have hit my arm against something. Right. What am I supposed to do about all of this?

I was talking to my pwBPD earlier in a lighthearted conversation about when we found out our son would be born. Turns out, we both have very different memories of telling my parents about it. She combined the time we told them she was pregnant with the time we told them we were getting married. I tried to explain this but she got very very angry and insisted I was wrong. So I said something like maybe we both are misremembering and such. I made it clear I did not want to argue about this. But she pressed on. It wasnt enough for me to say I might be wrong (I’m not and I actually have proof of it) but she would not stop. She even went so far as to say the events I was describing did not happen at all. Those were two major life events for me and I remember those days very clearly. To be told they didn’t happen at all is very hurtful and belittling. I refused to acknowledge it and stopped the discussion.