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We're both in our 50's. He's constantly getting fired and I pay all his bills. He's got money saved because he gave me full power or attorney and I give him an allowance and save the rest 'when he's working'. He's an alcoholic and a drug addict, after his last job loss I bought an investment home to use the rent to help support him. He's telling me he 'wants' the house, and also wants to move a loser friend in from HS with him. I feel like he thinks I owe him a life because I'm ok. I worked my butt off and put myself through college, saved, invested. I have enough, but it just makes me angry that he's demanding. He says he wants a nice house in a nice neighborhood and a nice car he can be proud of, but he's unemployed. He's renting a room in a crappy area and his car is garbage. He's basically asking me to give him half a million as a gift and support that after - which is unfair and totally not realistic. He's not even asking. He's telling me that's what I should do.

I already set up the cash portion to go to charities, but I don't know what to do about the property. I'd rather just use everything so I was thinking about a reverse mortgage on the main house. There are 2 brothers that are both terrible with money and expect me to support them just because I organized myself better.