u/Herefourfunnn

Realization about the complexity of what I have been experiencing

I tried to help someone and despite my expertise, I couldn’t. After nearly 9 months, until about a week ago, I felt like a failure because I couldn’t help him despite all the years I have spent dedicated to my field and my research. I was helping on a personal level, but I only met him because of what he was going through. I realized recently, everything I was experiencing, even the imposter syndrome, was connected to vicarious trauma. I feel it’s something to consider for people in fields that deal with life or death situations. Now that I understand the complexity of why I feel like a failure, like an imposter, I can start working on resolutions. Hopefully in the future, I will be able to use the painful experience to help others instead of blaming myself for what I couldn’t do

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u/Herefourfunnn — 11 hours ago

Lunch time after a long morning working outside on my property

Cherry tomatoes, baby carrots, spring mix, ground beef, a few servings of egg whites, 2 eggs, and a small amount of sunflower seeds and pumpkin seeds to add extra flavor, absolutely no dressing, but I cooked the eggs in olive oil

u/Herefourfunnn — 3 days ago
▲ 1 r/Prison

It’s a messy situation. But I found out last night, the guy I love was sentenced to 16 months. He doesn’t even know I love him. The background is complicated and other than one text message, I haven’t heard from him since September. I knew he was facing charges then. I tried to help him. I couldn’t. Now I am trying to figure out if I should try to be there for him through this or if it would be better for him to leave him alone. I am very concerned about his mental health. I really hope they have him on a watch. Self harm is a concern. I would appreciate any insight. I am open to questions about the background, but it’s a lot. I don’t want to provide too much detail for privacy reasons.

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u/Herefourfunnn — 23 days ago

I’m realizing imposter syndrome is a big part of what I am dealing with right now. I’m a sociologist with an education in law as well. My primary research is in the field of abuse/domestic violence. I focus a lot on social psychology, helping other people and yet, I am an absolute mess. For years I have felt like no one could understand I am human too, with my own issues. For some reason now, I feel like everyone can see my issues. No matter how much I achieve and how much I am said to be respected, I feel like they see the mess that I am and it’s all pity

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u/Herefourfunnn — 24 days ago