At a loss at what to do...noisy/inconsiderate/immature roommate and I have no where else to go...
TL/DR: My roommate is noisy as fuck at all times of the day, and is also eating my food and is causing me to lose sleep and also effect my mental health. Even after I helped her find a couch and knowing I just lost a friend....
Some context... I'm 37, I've had roommates since I moved out of my dad's house at 25. Most were ok, some were really dirty and never cleaned up, and a couple were great matches! All my life I have lived in the state where I was born and raised however over the last few years I had been visiting this city a couple states over and had been starting to really enjoy being there. I made a bunch of friends and continued to visit over the years.
Last April, my friend Lindsay let me know that her friend Brittney, whom we had hung out with before and gone out into the city together; had a room opening up in her 3 bedroom rowhouse right in the city that I had been visiting often! I put in my application to the apt and to my great excitement it got approved! I knew the apartment wasn't huge cause I had visited before, however I knew rent was cheap, and it was a short drive/public transit from downtown and was in a very walkable safe neighborhood.
Brittney has been living in this apartment for a few years now and both of her roommates were leaving from the last lease, so she switched rooms and took the largest one by far, which was well within her right. I am in the bedroom directly on the other side of her wall, then there is a bathroom, and then a 3rd bedroom which one of my good friends, Isabel, ended up moving into.
Almost immediately upon moving here the shenanigans began. Brittney is Buddhist and within the first week, I became acutely aware of her chanting, nearly shouting her prayer before work, sometimes as early as 5 or 6 am. I am a career server/bartender so I do not get up early. I go to bed late, I am also a DJ/producer so sometimes I'm up even later to go to shows or to play my own. I will admit, its on me to not have immediately said something to the effect of, "hey, your praying wakes me up every time you do it, could you do it silently, or do it another time of day?" But I also couldn't believe that she thought that would be something that is ok to do when the rest of the world, including your roommate one thin wall away, is still sleeping.
I wasn't in the best headspace over the course of the first few months after the move so I didn't really do a great job of sticking up for myself, but also, even though I'm an atheist I do believe people should be able to practice their religion how they want, except obviously if it creates a distraction (which this was/is).
Over the course of this first least I have generally not been sleeping great but the peace has been mostly maintained and the vibes being mostly decent. Been using a white noise machine which was definitely helping me not get jarred awake in the mornings.
A few weeks ago I decided to cut weed out of my life. I am getting better rest but also having trouble maintaining a full night of sleep, and even when she wasn't chanting in the mornings, she was waking me up through her morning routine of getting up and stomping down the hallway, using the bathroom, closing and shutting doors, fiddling around with locks and rummaging through her bathroom supplies in her drawers. I finally texted her saying that I had been having trouble sleeping and was wondering if she could do try to be a little bit more quiet in the mornings. She asked what sounds I was hearing; I was honest and told her it was the whole morning routine, ie. all the stuff I listed earlier. She took the message well enough.... Apparently at least.
Less than a week later on a Saturday morning before 9 am, she was chanting again, singing LOUDLY in the shower (also right next to my bedroom) and then proceeded to fucking vacuum in her bedroom right afterwards. All before 10 am on a Saturday morning, when she knew I had friends over the night before (one of if not only time I've had friends over at night) and I made sure let her know to let us know if we were being loud cause she had stayed in that Friday night. Not a peep from her until the rampage of sound from her the following morning.
I actually kind of had a psychotic break. I went into Isabels room and started blasting the most annoying music I could think of it and just laid on her bed, completely exhausted and feeling hopeless. Its not just noise in the mornings though. Any time Brittney comes home its like a human noise machine. Scream talking on speaker phone, blasting her TV, blasting a show off of her phone on max volume while doing anything. The girl has to have something playing at all times or some kind of sounds, its genuinely absurd.
Finally, she started eating some of my food without asking. We don't share food and we never have. And now she's gaslighting me saying she isn't doing it. First it was a slice of pizza that I had brought home from work and I know I hadn't had more than 2 slices, the next morning there was one less. I brought it up saying I would have been happy to share, but to just ask next time. She said "I'm trying to eat healthy and I'm not eating pizza." LOL yea bullshit. But whatever, I let her play her game.
Just yesterday I went grocery shopping and I bought a bag of chips that I had opened and I had one small handful of last night. This morning the bag is nearly empty and yes, its only a bag of chips but at the same time, its about the respect factor of it. I JUST got them, if she wanted a bag of chips I would have bought her her own, but she's "trying to eat healthy." I'm kinda at a loss of what to do.
To make matters worse, I knew she was looking for a couch or something for her MASSIVE suite of a bedroom (we all pay the same low low price even tho her room is easily 2.5x/3x bigger than mine) Trying to make the peace, I saw someone putting a nice futon by the street the other day and I carried the heavy piece of equipment to our apartment and brought it in for her. We hugged and she thanked me. I thought we were cool and she's eating my food. Still being noisy as fuck.
She also is aware that I had a friend pass away last week and she has done nothing but continue to be an inconsiderate trash human being and I feel kind of regretful in upending my whole life to come move here. The lease is up August and I "signed" a intention to stay another year and I also I can't really afford to live somewhere more expensive. I also REALLY like the neighborhood and the location and I can walk to my job which is fucking amazing. I also really like living with Isabel together, shes one of my best friends and I don't wanna abandon her to the shenanigans in this apartment.
If I found the right fit, I would consider breaking the lease and losing the deposit or just maybe talking to the landlord about the situation but I have a feeling he won't really care. I'm beginning to have alot of resentment towards Brittney and I really don't like disliking someone but she is a truly awful, bad, terrible roommate.
What do I do?