u/Hijinks2319

I’ve been feeling this way for a couple of months now, and it’s really starting to bother me. I feel like people ask for my opinion but ignore it anyway. They want me to hang out even when I don't want to, and they expect me to give them all of my free time. I've tried being direct by telling them my schedule is completely packed, but that only holds them off for a day or two before they push again.

At work, in my personal life, and in my family, try to tell me what to do and how to do it. Yet, they never take the reins themselves; they just demand I change to fit their needs. The only exception is my lovely girlfriend, who never makes me feel this way and is a great sounding board.

I know I’m a dependable person, but it feels like that dependability has caused everyone to turn to me as their ultimate source for everything

Not sure if it’s just my location or the type of business that I’m in. But I find there are days or all of the weird people just come out. Where you find yourself asking “what the f*** is going on today”

Where do they come from? Is there a group chat?

I just need to figure out how to deal with an employee that constantly finds problems. Everything will be good. The day will be fine, but she will work extremely hard to find or nitpick any issue that she can think of that could come up. No matter how clean or prepared or stocked or ready we are. She will scan through and find something out of place that is wrong that needs to be addressed and fixed and bring it up to me.

I know this is some internal anxiety that she has or a controlling thing that she needs to do, but it’s getting to a point of being exhausting. And it’s starting to turn into her, trying to tell me how to do my job.