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This is 13F. Mom and Dad were arguing once more over the mess in the house, including why the bed wasn't clean, and the bottles weren't filled.

They were fighting at first, but as things worsened, Dad began hitting Mum and calling her a villain. She must therefore follow him and be beneath him. She was a housewife, he said. Dad was tougher, but Mum hit him too to protect herself. He shoved her against the wall, punched her, kicked her, and threatened to kill her. When I walked in, Dad also hurt me.

Sincerely, I would appreciate some legal counsel. How should I proceed? I also have a six-year-old younger brother. What should I do if it occurs once more?

Thanks.

People love to romanticise the idea of an inner compass (Gut Feeling) that magically knows the right path during major life changes. Whether it is a career shift, a major move, or a long-term relationship decision, the common consensus is always that a person should listen to their inner voice.

In reality, that fast, emotional reaction is usually a terrible guide.

A sudden emotional reaction to a big choice is not a profound truth. It is a biological calculation shaped by past conditioning, personal biases, and unaddressed stress.

For example, someone who grew up around unstable and high-stress environments will often feel like a stable, calm partner is boring or wrong. That reaction happens simply because the dynamic lacks a familiar adrenaline spike. Similarly, when presented with a massive opportunity for growth, a person might experience a strong internal warning to reject it. That reaction is not a warning sign from the universe. It is just a brain panicking at the thought of leaving a comfort zone.

True, reliable expertise exists, but it requires decades of recognizing identical patterns in a specific environment, like a seasoned doctor or a structural engineer. For the broad, unpredictable choices of everyday life, an immediate emotional reaction lacks the necessary data to be useful.

For major decisions, wisdom means actively ignoring that sudden internal reaction, slowing down, and looking at facts logically. That internal voice is usually just stress masquerading as wisdom.

For context, Dad and Mum were arguing over a messy room. Dad came back from work, did the messy room and snapped at Mum, then he blamed me. Look, I agree that I didn't clean it up. But I didn't deserve to get beaten.

Then he hit me, like with a slipper, 4-7 times, then mum and dad started arguing over varous household things, then dad took mum to a corner nearly pinning her to a wall and threatening to kill her, I was filling up water bottles (As told so), Then they started fighting, dad hit mum when she opposed him, and Mum hit dad back, Dad really beat her, I tried to distract dad and called him out for doing this and he tried to punch my face, I dodged, but then he hit punched my gut, and called me out to follow his rules, since he's the earning member basically said "My house, my rules" I hit him back, I punched his hands multiple times as he hit me too, He was hitting mum—I couldn't simply stand back.

EDIT: I already told my grandparents, they came upstairs from the commotion, they defended dad, and blamed all shit on me and lil bro.

So for context, I was mopping the floor (Which I rarely do) with a mopper, I accidentally spilt some water over, and mum called me a "Whore", like what in the world did I do to ever be called a "Whore"?

So, in the Quran, verse 4:34 of Surah an-Nisa, it is written that, "Men are the caretakers of women, as men have been provisioned by Allah over women and tasked with supporting them financially. And righteous women are devoutly obedient and, when alone, protective of what Allah has entrusted them with.1 And if you sense ill-conduct from your women, advise them ˹first˺, ˹if they persist,˺ do not share their beds, ˹but if they still persist,˺ then discipline them ˹gently˺.2 But if they change their ways, do not be unjust to them. Surely Allah is Most High, All-Great." Can someone please explain that to me?