u/HoOoP_GPT — reddlx

My psychology channel is a month old and averaging under 50 views — what am I missing?

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Niche: psychology + self-improvement. Format: short-form style videos with bold thumbnails and emotionally-driven titles.

I'm 30, a solo entrepreneur making enough to get by, and I still don't know if this is actually the right path for me — has anyone else seriously audited their life direction this late and found clarity?

I've been a solo entrepreneur for a few years. It pays the bills, I built something real, and I have full freedom over my time. From the outside it probably looks like I figured it out.

I haven't.

There's a Japanese concept called Ikigai — the intersection of what you love, what you're good at, what the world needs, and what you can be paid for. When all four overlap, you've supposedly found your reason for being.

I'm honestly only hitting one circle consistently. It pays. But do I love it? Is it what I'm genuinely good at versus what I taught myself out of necessity? Is it what I'd choose if I was starting from scratch today?

I don't know. And that uncertainty at 30, after years of building something, is a strange and uncomfortable place to sit with.

I think a lot of people in their 30s are quietly running on decisions they made in their early 20s without really knowing themselves yet. You build momentum in a direction, get decent at it, and one day look up and think — is this actually mine? Or did I just get used to it?

So my actual questions:

Has anyone done a serious honest audit of their values, strengths, and what genuinely energizes them at 30 or later — and did it actually shift anything for you?
For those who felt the freedom of entrepreneurship but still felt quietly unsatisfied — what finally broke it open for you?
Is Ikigai actually useful in practice or just a pretty diagram that doesn't survive contact with real life?

Not in a dark place. Not looking for motivation. Just being honest about something I think more people feel than admit — especially those who skipped the conventional path entirely and still ended up wondering if they chose right.

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u/HoOoP_GPT — 14 days ago

▲ 0 r/findapath

Feeling lost about who you are and what you want — is this more common than we admit?

I've been thinking about something that bothered me for years and I'm curious if others relate.

Growing up, nobody around me actually knew what they wanted — they just pretended to. Or they picked something because their parents expected it, or because it seemed "safe", or just because everyone else was doing it. Medicine, engineering, law. The usual suspects.

But underneath that? Most people I knew were just as lost as I was. They just hid it better.

The problem wasn't that we were lazy or didn't care. It was that nobody actually helped us ask the right questions. School taught us everything except the most important thing — who we are, what genuinely matters to us, and what kind of life would actually feel like ours.

No class on self-awareness. No process for figuring out your real strengths versus the ones people told you that you had. No honest conversation about the fact that "follow your passion" is useless advice when you don't know what your passion is yet.

So most of us just... guessed. Picked something. Hoped it would click eventually.

For some it did. For a lot of people it didn't.

I'm curious about your experience:

Did you feel genuinely lost about your direction — not just undecided, but deeply unsure of who you even were?
What age hit hardest? Teen years, early 20s, later?
What actually helped you find clarity — a specific experience, person, book, moment?
What do you wish had existed when you were going through it — what kind of support or tool or process would have actually helped?

Asking because I think this is one of those problems everyone experiences but nobody talks about openly. Curious what's real for people here.

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u/HoOoP_GPT — 14 days ago

▲ 4 r/loneliness

I used to think I was bad at making friends. Turns out I was doing something much worse.

For a long time I assumed my loneliness was a social problem. Not enough people. Wrong city. Too introverted.

But the more I sat with it, the more I realized — the loneliness didn't go away in rooms full of people. It followed me into conversations, into relationships, into moments that were supposed to feel good.

That's when something Sartre wrote stopped me cold.

He said that every person is ultimately locked inside their own consciousness. You cannot fully know another person. You cannot fully be known. That gap — that unbridgeable space between two minds — is the source of what he called epistemic loneliness. It's not a flaw in your social life. It's a condition of being human.

Which sounds bleak. But it completely reframed what I was actually looking for.

If total understanding is impossible, then the goal of connection isn't to be fully known. It's something else — something Martin Buber described as "The Between." The rare quality of presence that happens when two people stop performing and actually meet. Not talking at each other. Not managing impressions. Just... present.

Most of our interactions are what Buber called I-It — transactional, surface-level, each person treating the other as a means to an end. The antidote to loneliness isn't more of those. It's fewer — but real.

The Stoics had a surprisingly practical take on this too. Zeno, the founder of Stoicism, was a shipwrecked merchant who lost everything — and found philosophy in the ruins. He built a community not around comfort, but around shared attention to what actually matters.

The loneliness didn't disappear. It became a compass.

I explored this more in a short video if you want to go deeper: youtube.com/watch?v=yDyS9uV_wyA

But I'm curious — has loneliness ever pointed you toward something? Or does it just feel like noise?

u/HoOoP_GPT — 15 days ago

▲ 2 r/loneliness+1 crossposts

I've spent most of my life thinking I was just a "nice" person. I'm the one who reads the room, adjusts the vibe, swallows whatever I was about to say if it might make someone uncomfortable. For a long time I thought that was empathy. But recently I had to face something harder: I wasn't being kind. I was just terrified.

I'd been softening my own needs before anyone even had the chance to reject them. And the saddest part? Nobody noticed I was disappearing. Not even me.

Three realizations have started to break this cycle.

First — people-pleasing isn't a character flaw. It's an outdated survival skill. The behavior that protected you at six — reading your parents' moods, keeping the peace to earn love — is the exact behavior costing you your identity at thirty. Carl Jung called the social mask we wear the persona. He believed it's necessary. But the danger starts when the mask grows thicker than the person wearing it. When you say yes but mean no, the mask thickens. Eventually people don't love you — they love the performance. That's why you can feel completely alone in a room full of people who "like" you.

Second — we have to stop living in bad faith. Sartre used this term for when we pretend we have no choice. "I have to say yes to keep the peace." But his uncomfortable truth is that we always have a choice. We are choosing to disappear — out of fear. The moment you own that, you stop being a victim of your behavior and become its author.

Third — the solution isn't to just say no. It's to notice the yes. Next time you flinch and automatically agree to something, don't try to change your answer yet. Just watch the mental calculation happening in real time. Awareness before action. That gap is where you start to come back.

I came across a short video recently that articulated all of this far better than I could — it's what prompted me to actually write this out: https://youtu.be/nBaVUnycQ_4

If any of this hit close to home, it's worth the six minutes.

u/HoOoP_GPT — 18 days ago

▲ 4 r/davinciresolve

The Problem: I've been working on some video projects recently, and every time I opened DaVinci Resolve, my internet speed would absolutely tank. Chrome would barely load, and my connection felt completely dead. The second I closed Resolve? Speeds instantly went back to normal.

As a backend dev, my first thought was severe bufferbloat from background cloud syncs, or maybe some messy virtual adapters throttling the connection. I even did a full Windows network reset which only helped temporarily.

The Culprit: OEM bloatware. Specifically, Lenovo Vantage.

The Fix: Lenovo pre-installs a feature called Network Boost (usually found under their gaming settings). It comes turned ON by default. Because DaVinci Resolve hits the GPU so hard, Vantage apparently misidentifies it as a demanding 3D game and actively starves all your background apps (like Chrome) of bandwidth to "prevent lag."

If you are pulling your hair out over a similar issue, here is the fix:

Open Lenovo Vantage from your Start menu.
Navigate to your Gaming or Advanced Settings.
Toggle Network Boost to OFF.

Instantly solved the problem. Hope this saves someone else from wasting hours troubleshooting their network stack!

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u/HoOoP_GPT — 23 days ago