Girlfriend dumped me while my mom is dying because she didn't want me to lean on her for support.
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My mom has COPD and her health has been yo-young drastically for the past 2 months. Things got very bad and she was moved to a hospice. This is where everything gets messy.
I've been doing all I can and making time to see my mom and initially my girlfriend told me to let her know if there's anything she can do and that she would be there for me. I thanked her and told her that right now I just want someone to spend time with to keep me from spiraling in those quiet scary moments alone. I asked if she could maybe take my dog out for a walk now and again (she has a key to my place) during the time I usually get home so I can travel the 90ish minutes to see my mom. She said absolutely, however she only ended up doing it once before feeling too inconvenienced by it.
I'd call her after tough visits at the hospital or hospice and let her know I'm struggling badly with everything going on and she would say she's sorry and again to let her know if there was anything she could do, so I asked if she could spend a few nights with me this week. She said she couldn't due to work. That's totally fine, but instead she went on a spontaneous trip to Whistler with her friends that I did not get an invite to. This pattern of asking if there was anything she could do and then not actually doing it started to bother me. I'd be at the hospice while she is at a beach party, or a club or a concert.
Finally I told her I'm not feeling loved and she said she is sorry but she keeps getting thoughts of nice things she could do to help me out and then not doing them to her own self proclaimed selfishness. I told her I need to take some time to myself to think about that and went no contact. Things got very bad with my mom 2 days ago so I called her and she said she needs more time and then broke my heart with the sentence "I know everything going on right now is a lot and I'm sorry I can't give you the support you need. Seeing your name pop up on my phone has started to make my stomach drop"
She's removed all pictures of us on social media and told me to no longer contact her.
I'm heartbroken, lost, and still struggling with the burdon of caring for my mom, my dog, and have thus been deeply neglecting myself. I'm scared, struggling, and now feel so trapped and lonely.