I’m trying to get a sense of whether the term, or knowledge of the concept, “agency” is commonly known. If it’s common knowledge to you how do you ensure that you maintain your agency in various types of relationships?
I have an issue with always jumping ahead. That frequently includes playing out a conversation with all possible scenarios and preparing talking points. Or if I have a business idea, I’m already thinking about when it takes off before even finishing the business plan. Or even flipping through handouts of a presentation in meetings and preparing questions. The genesis of this seems to be linked to childhood trauma and the need to feel prepared and ready for anything. I’m working on it in therapy and doing mindfulness techniques to try and stay present. Sometimes it does serve me well but a lot of times it’s just a waste of brain energy and causes anxiety so I don’t move forward.
I’m just wondering if anyone else has any suggestions on how to tamp down some of this behavior. I have a serious boundary that I need to set very soon and I can’t seem to get out of my head enough to do it.