How do you stop individual days/interactions from affecting your perception of your relationship?
I’m trying to work on something in myself and would love to hear how other people handle this.
I’ve realized that I can sometimes let small changes in my boyfriend’s texting affect how I perceive the relationship as a whole.
Example sometimes he might not mention baby/babe and might take longer than usual in replying. Instantly my mind goes to checking if everything is okay, did I do something to make him mad, did something wrong happen with us lately. In short, checking the health of the relationship.
His texting style is actually very different from mine where he texts very sparsely whereas I am someone who tries to reply instantly.
I do have a great therapist and I am working with him on this but I'm especially interested in how people learned to stop monitoring their partner's texting/affection so closely and became more secure in the relationship.