For folks who did IVF for secondary infertility after conceiving first unassisted, how did you deal with your anxieties of this process?
We’re 39F and 45M. We had our first when I was 34 conceived naturally. My husband had 0% morphology and was just told it doesn’t impact getting pregnant only takes time. Stupid us, we didn’t actively try to get pregnant second time around and then when I hit 38 I panicked and went to see fertility specialist . we had some moderate to bad readings on sperm count for my husband and was advised to do IVF. After 1 egg retrieval, we got 6 euploid embryos but then our first two medicated FETs were complete busts. For my third FET , we did modified natural and so far it’s looking like it’s sticking (very early at 7 weeks but heard the heartbeat at 6w3d).
All this said, my anxieties are all over the place. I am worried about a million things going wrong because of our advanced ages (maternal and paternal). I keep seeing about placental issues due to advanced age and IVF (ICSI), if there is some major anatomy issues that I may discover in my 20 week scan due to the embryo being made in a lab and frozen after, or if there maybe other issues that we may find only when the baby is born that maybe attributed to our advanced ages. Add to it, I used to have terrible symptoms in my first pregnancy and have close to nothing this time around making me wonder if something is wrong.
My question to those who did IVF for secondary infertility after conceiving first unassisted, how was your pregnancy? How did you cope with the anxieties? Will the anxieties ever go away?. Does advanced maternal and paternal ages raise risks significantly even in euploid embryos? How can I mitigate those risks?
TIA