My girlfriend’s mom thinks I’m a spy, and now my relationship is over. Seriously.
My girlfriend broke up with me about a week ago, and I’m struggling to make sense of the reason she gave.
According to her, her mom has a history of believing people are spying on her. My girlfriend told me I did something that triggered those fears, and her mom became convinced that I was spying on them too. My girlfriend said she no longer felt safe and needed space to figure out whether I was guilty or not.
I was hurt because I felt falsely accused. When she asked for space, I told her maybe we should just break up because I thought she was making excuses. She agreed, and we’ve been broken up ever since.
Here’s where I’m confused:
Before all of this, our relationship felt great. We rarely argued, spent a lot of time together, and I honestly thought things were going really well. I had also previously suspected that her mom might have some paranoia issues because of the things she would say, which makes me think my ex may have actually been telling the truth about where these concerns came from.
However, after the breakup, she got drunk one night and came over and had sex with me. I thought this might be a lie to get me to have her so she could see other people, but this made me feel like i was still the only one.
Now I’m trying to figure out what happened. Does this sound like a situation where family influence and fear caused the breakup? Does it sound like she’s confused and conflicted? Or does it sound like she’s using her mom as an excuse and hiding the real reason for ending the relationship?
I’m not looking for validation. I genuinely want outside opinions because I feel too emotionally involved to see this clearly.