Husband forgot my birthday
I (26F) am considering divorcing my husband (25M) after he forgot my birthday.
Edit : *** WE DO NOT LIVE TOGETHER ***
Yesterday was my birthday. We talked on the phone throughout the day, and he even saw that I was at the salon getting ready. He jokingly asked if I was getting ready for another man. I said no and changed the subject.
As the day went on and he got out of work, we stopped talking. I assumed he was planning something for my birthday, so I gave him space. But as it got later, I realized that wasn’t the case — he had completely forgotten.
I called him and got no answer. I texted him and still got no response until an hour later. When I asked what he was doing, he ignored the question but watched my story, so I gave up.
Today, he’s been blowing up my phone asking where I am. I told him I was home, and then I brought up the fact that yesterday was my birthday. He responded, “Yeah, now I know.”
I was deeply upset because this was my first birthday as a married woman, and this is how it went. His excuse was that he’s terrible at remembering dates and birthdays. He apologized and said we could do something today instead.
I told him that I’ve already felt, through many of his actions, that he doesn’t truly care about me, and this just confirmed it. I said I didn’t want to be with him anymore and that I wanted a divorce. He chuckled and said, “All of this because I didn’t say happy birthday?”
How do I go about this? Am I overreacting? Or is this reasonable. Again this is my first marriage and I’m just lost in all of the negativity in this marriage.
TL;DR: My husband forgot my birthday, brushed it off, and now I’m questioning the marriage.