u/HoneyMoonPotWow

You can use this thread to rant and vent.

Fuck Meta!!! At this point I have an easier time not getting flagged on TikTok. But IG unfortunately is still the best platform to promote on. The time spent fucking around with the recommended status, different accounts, links, highlights, stories, bios... and every time my page loads in a weird way I already know I got another violation. I literally start to sweat every time this happens!!! 😂 And now they undeniably added these "shadow restrictions" where your reach can be limited without you officially being told... great!!!

My reach is SO down at the moment.. I once had a millions and millions reach... currently I sit around at 100k. What a shocker!!!

+ typically when I find a solution it doesn't work anymore a week later or so. 🫥

I feel like attachment types often get subtly looked down on in Enneagram spaces. The usual framing is that they are too affected by other people, too shaped by context, too focused on feedback, belonging, approval, security, roles, harmony, etc.

And yes, obviously there are real issues there. 3 can lose itself in image and achievement. 6 can lose itself in doubt and external certainty. 9 can lose itself in merging and comfort...

But I think people often miss the strength inside that same structure. Attachment types are responsive and they can read context, they can adjust. They can learn from the environment and they can find workable roles, strategies and positions in the real world. That may not sound as glamorous as being intensely separate, fixated, rebellious, idealistic or self-contained, but in a world that is changing as fast as ours adaptability is a huge advantage.

Being influenced by the outside world is not automatically weakness! It can mean you are actually paying attention. To be clear this doesn’t mean attachment types always like adapting. Sometimes they want to rebel, do their own thing, stop caring or refuse to adjust to anyone. But adapting often comes more naturally anyway. There is an instinctive ability to notice what reality is asking for and find a way to work with it. At unhealthy levels that can feel like self-erasure. At healthier levels it can become a genuine superpower. I think this is also where the contrast with hexad types gets interesting.

Hexad types can have a clearer sense of being separate from the collective. They can be more self-directed and more internally fixed... more resistant to outside pressure and more loyal to their own vision. But the shadow side is that this can become rigidity. Sometimes they can get so identified with their own path, worldview, intensity, ideals, independence or self-image that they struggle to notice other possible ways of adapting. So the issue is not that attachment types are weaker. Attachment types can over-adapt and lose themselves while hexad types can under-adapt and get stuck in a fixed version of themselves.

Of course the growth path is not to become a shapeless blob who just becomes whatever the environment wants. The growth path is developing an inner anchor while keeping the ability to adapt.

Something like... “I can change without losing myself" or "I can be influenced without being controlled" or “I can find my place even if reality keeps shifting”

That feels especially true for triple attachment types. People sometimes describe them as too adaptive, too malleable, too normal or too dependent on context. But there is also a lot of resilience there. At healthier levels it can become flexibility, social intelligence, persistence, cooperation and survival intelligence.

I don’t think attachment types are less individual, I think their individuality often has to be built through relationship with reality, not in opposition to it.

Curious if other attachment types relate to this. Do you experience your adaptability as a weakness, a strength or both?

RANT: Fuck Meta!