My husband is pissed off …
So my case is kind of different ugh I feel like shit but I know I was doing it for the RIGHT reasons . Me and my husband are currently separated and live in two different states ! For the past two years I have been begging my husband to move back with him but he is so damn manipulative someway somehow I couldn’t move back and was forced to live in the state I am right now .
Ughhh let my just break it down , when he went on his first deployment I waited six months for him, and I was still living in my home state when he got off of deployment, his orders was based in Virginia, so I packed up all my things and moved there with him. We got an apartment and everything was fine until I didn’t really know the ins and outs of being a military spouse. I was so confused and we ended up turning on each other. Moral the story is something really traumatic happened to me and I needed a break and I wanted to go back home !!!! not even a month later I tried to come back to Virginia to my apartment with him and he would not give me a ticket back. I didn’t have a job of course you know I was depending on him so he forced me to stay in my home state . Then that’s when I noticed the cheating starting to happen not answering my phone calls. I don’t know how me needing a break turned into ghosting your wife . I know many people say that when you’re in the military that you supposed to have all this amount of money and you’re rich that wasn’t true in my case at all .
Even after he ghosted me for months, I found out that he was cheating on me. I also found out that he wanted a separation for the first time it broke me I fought for my marriage. I really fought long and hard, and he was just spiraling out of control. He then went on another deployment, so I waited even longer still have not moved back to Virginia, but disappointment, I thought it was gonna be another six months. It turned out to be 11 months and I stuck by his side. I stuck by his side, and I was there every step of the way we ended up getting another apartment together. I picked it out and I felt absolutely in love with it but mind you I’m still taking care of all of his business on land while he is still on the boat overseas on deployment . Oh baby when he got off that boat 11 months waiting for him he told me that he wanted a divorce. It absolutely crushed me 11 months. I waited for a kiss a hug a smile I got absolutely nothing zero from him.
And once again he got off that boat a whole different person and he told me that I was going to have to find my way back to Virginia and he was not going to help me. He packed up his bags. He moved into that apartment. He got him a car and he lived his life without me once again I’m still in my hometown stuck. He did not want me to go with him again y’all see what I mean ? So once again, I feel hopeless in my mind. We are married so in sickness or in health, you know I far for my marriage and I never got that back in return despite everything we’ve been through.
So basically my question to you ladies are have you ever seek for spousal support? I had contacted his command for legal advice and it ended up traveling getting word to him and he cussed me smooth out and I feel absolutely bad. I don’t know what to do. Like you live in this apartment you’re receiving BAH and I still live in my hometown. I’m not even with you. You don’t answer my phone calls or text messages and it’s like I shouldn’t feel bad but I do you know I don’t want him to get in trouble. That’s not my character, but it’s like what do I do?