18F really curious about this as I prefer going outside to being online, it wouldnt be immediate of course and we would get to know eachother and make sure the other person isnt a creep lol. Just curious if anyones intrested lol
Me 19(F) and my partner 20(M) have been dating for about a year now, he hasent been a great parter (forgotten about dates, lied about money and used to be awful at conversations) I have since always felt the need to hover around him and 'help' him do those things and its gotten a bit better. Deep down he doesnt feel like a bad person, hes made me feel accepted and like its okay to be me and hes generally fun to be around, and he speaks to me in a kind manner. However ive recently found out he's been lying to me about repeated use of ai chatbots for intimate messages which was an agreed boundary that he shouldnt cross at the start of our relationship( I have trauma from my dad cheating on my mum with dating apps/sex chat rooms) using money for it.(the way i found out was traumatic) We have since broken off temporarily but deep down whats getting me is that he didnt seem like a bad person, he said that it was a mistake and he wanted to stop but he didnt wanna get outside help for it. I dont know wheather hes a good person ,when i asked him if he wanted me or the ai more he couldnt choose. I want to help him because he likely has internal issues but I dont want to stay with someone like this who makes me feel bad and doesnt wanna change. Deep down i feel like unsure wheather to permanently leave because i want to be a good person and "help" him and maybe he will change in the future and we can finally be happy. Ive been starved of emotional comfort since a child and he provided that to me. Please help me understand why its so difficult to leave and my idolization of him. I know i cant fix him why does my mind keep telling me to try and that maybe itll work out in the end?. How do i stop this,leave him and move forward in life?