u/Hopeful_Pangolin5448

I (25F) and my sister (31F) have been going back and forth about me getting with someone I used to talk to.

I was telling her how I have been with my current dude for over 2 years, ans he and I have been going back and forth about some disrespectful things he said to me.

She told me to leave my dude and start talking back to someone I used to talk to.

I told her I felt uncomfortable because im still with my dude and the other guy just gives weird vibes.

She got upset at me and told me I was a stupid bitch for staying with my dude and that if anything I deserve the disrespect from my dude if I decide to stay with him.

I told her she was wrong for wishing disrespect on me and that when she was in a similar situation I never said anything sideways about her or her relationship. I told her I think we should part our ways of communication for a while until emotions calm down then she can text me then.

So my question is AITA for asking for the space until her emotions calm down?

I (25 F) and my boyfriend (39 M) have been together 2 years. About 3 weeks ago he made a "joke" saying he is gonna quit his job and be a stay at home husband (we have no kids just my dog) while I go back to working 2 jobs to take care of the bills. I told him that I wasn't going to do that again but here we are....

Backstory..... He doesn't drive because he never learned and is scared to learn because the only time he got behind the wheel he drove into the ditch which means I drive him EVERYWHERE..... So the first 8 months he didn't have a job and I was working 2 jobs to make ends meet with my personal bills and the rent. He eventually got a job and worked at his job for 1 year and 4 months before getting "fired" for missing to many days. He would miss 1-2 days a week depending on how he was feeling. On the past Tuesday (1 week ago), he texts me telling me he's on his way home they fired him. I looked further into it and he quit because he didn't like the fact that he was on his 2nd write up. Now all he does is complain that he is upset with himself and doesn't know what to do. He was "offered a job that will start in 2 weeks" but he doesn't like the pay because it was less than his job he was "fired" from. Let's not forget the way he treated me 2 Sundays ago (previous post).

I'm too kind hearted so.....The thing that is stopping me from breaking up with him is that he has no family, no where to go, and now no job if I kick him out. How would I be able to help him but get him out at the same time? Recommendations?

P.S.

Sorry that the post is all over the place. That's how my head feels right now.

I (25 F)and my boyfriend (39M) have been together 2 years. We have been living together the 2 years we have been together. I have caught him flirting with other women over the phone but let it go because the women are in another country. Last Sunday was my last straw that made me want to separate from him. We went with my bestfriend(25F) and her family to see a movie. Everything was fine until it was time to order drinks/snacks. I ordered what I wanted and asked him what he wanted to drink. He made a comment and said "corona" to which my response was in a slightly upset tone (upset bc if the line and because the movies don't sell beer) "seriously what do you want to drink?" He ignored me and walked away so I ordered him a coke. After I paid I was looking for him to get his drink and all he said was "don't ever talk to me like that again and I'm never going out with you again" I was confused because I didn't realize I raised my voice until my bestfriend shortly there after told me "hey girl you kinda yelled at him". I finished grabbing our other items and my drink and started looking for him. He was sitting on some chairs ignoring me. Eventually I got him to come over to put butter on my popcorn and asked him what's wrong. He said you talked at me. To which I apologized and told him I didn't realize I did. Not even 2 seconds later he put his drink on the counter and said "shove the drink up your a**" and he walked out of the theater. I followed him out and was apologizing still for raising my voice. He told me "go f**k yourself." I got him to go inside to watch the movie and he was acting like nothing happened. On the way home I apologized to him again for raising my voice at him. He ignored me the whole night and into the next day. When I got home from work I asked him to speak about the previous day and he looks me dead in the face and said "we have nothing to talk about. What was said was said." I apologized to him for a 4th time and told him "I don't like the way you talked to me, we could have talked it out instead of you telling me those things." His only response was "well if you don't like it we can go our separate ways." I didn't know what to say so I just say there lost and he got back on his game like it was nothing. It's been a little over a week and he's acting like nothing happened and is just living life like nothing and I am still hurt and upset that he didn't want to talk it out or anything. What would yall recommend I do in that situation?