Is she really interested?
I have a girl at my high school that I'm interested in. We did a few group projects together, but we never really got the chance to talk much. She's always very nice to me and seems genuinely interested whenever we're together in person. Even my friends think she's into me because of all the signs she gives.
I took my chance and asked her out. I made it clear that I was interested in her romantically and wasn't asking her to hang out just as friends. She took about five hours to reply, but she said she did want to go out with me and that we could figure out a day to do it. She also said she couldn't right now because her schedule is really busy.
The confusing part is that she barely replies to my texts. At school, she still talks to me normally and acts the same way she always has, like she's interested. But days would go by without her answering my messages. I even saw her texting one of her friends at school, so it didn't really make sense that she hadn't seen mine.
After a few days, I asked if she had changed her mind about our date. I never mentioned the texts or acted upset about it. She said she hadn't and that she still wanted to go out with me. She also apologized for not replying, saying she hadn't seen my messages, even though I never brought them up (meaning she actually saw them).
Then I told her that if she didn't actually want to go out, she could just tell me. She said again that she does want to go out with me, but that her schedule is just chaotic because of work.
That could honestly be true. She and her twin sister rarely come to school because they go to school, work, and courses. Still, I know she has time to reply to my texts.
We're on summer break now, and she still hasn't texted me back. I haven't sent her any more messages because I don't want to pressure her or come across as desperate.
Is she actually interested in me? I wonder if she's just really shy because she never talks to anyone at school except her twin sister. Everyone likes her, but she chooses to keep to herself and doesn't really have any close friends, even though people talk to her sometimes. She almost never starts conversations with anyone and seems like the kind of person who's very focused. She doesn't even talk that much to her own twin sister. Although she's very friendly and seems extroverted when you talk to her.
I have some past trauma from thinking a girl liked me when she actually didn't, so I'm scared the same thing might be happening again.
I honestly don't believe those internet videos that say, "If she's ignoring you, then she's not interested," because I think every situation is different. I've even seen cases where that wasn't true. Everyone is different, and people have different reasons and circumstances.
She doesn't seem like the type of girl who would try to play with my feelings. She's genuinely nice and doesn't come across like those girls with a huge ego or anything. But I'm still not sure what's going on.