All I want is to be someone’s first choice, someone new comes along and shows interest I want to be enough for them to choose me. I give my everything and always end up alone. I just want to be someone’s first choice always.
yesterday morning I was okay I could feel I was making good changes, I met up with an old friend had some pancakes and had a good laugh. only to get home to a phone call from my brother telling me his partner saw my ex with another girl and has photos and wanted to share them. I always had my suspicions before the break up and it’s been 2 months but I told him that I didn’t need to know that I didnt want anything sent to me and he’s made me feel worse than letting me just find some peace with it. I ended up breaking down all over again, I’m completely devastated and knowing that he’s happy with someone like I was nothing to him really hurts we were together 4 years. Both myself and my daughter who loved him deeply are hurt and still recovering while he gets to be happy doesn’t seem fair 😔
I miss going to sleep with you kissing me and telling me goodnight, I miss waking up to cuddles in the morning. I miss all the laughs and jokes, how I could be my dorky self and you loved it. I miss having you around to tell everything to I opened up and told you everything. I miss the messages and snaps. Now we’re in no contact I find it’s not so much you I’m missing now it was the good parts that came with you, knowing all the bad that came with you and just the small amount of good makes me realise I should never go back but I just miss the intimacy of being close to someone. I’m staying strong and I will not reach out he left me, started seeing someone then asked for no contact so I respect that and Im learning to respect myself. People keep telling me I’ll meet someone who will treat me right and love me but that scares me, I’m scared I’ll never love/trust again. I gave my all to him how do I do that again?
I’ve been struggling a lot with my mental health since my recent break up however I’ve tried reaching out to everyone I possibly can to meet up tomorrow and it made me feel so lonely. I don’t have a lot of people as I don’t have many friends, my family all have their own lives and my daughter will be with my sister tomorrow. I’m so scared to be alone tomorrow as I’ll be in my thoughts and they’re not healthy atm.
Today I find I’m really struggling, I feel so sad and lonely that I’m consumed in it. We’ve been separated 2 months and no contact just over 2 weeks. yesterday would have marked 4 years of being together. I feel so frustrated because last week I felt somewhat okay but this week I feel like all my emotions and come back double. I feel like the small group of people I’ve confided in are getting fed up of me and I’m boring them with my issues. I feel like I’m all alone and I just want someone to talk to. I know the possibility of even attempting to date is not on the cards for me as my feeling are still strong(I’ve read this can be a good distraction) I do so much to stay distracted but I’ve found the past 2 days when I’m alone and sitting still I’m in tears. I’m scared of being on my own atm because my thoughts become so loud and no matter how hard I’m fighting them they will not stop. I spend so much time scrolling on here reading everyone’s situations and advice just to find something that can help.
I’m now 8/9 weeks post break up and 2 weeks of no contact. The urge to message is so strong as I miss him so much he was my best friend, however after multiple therapy sessions and a lot of self reflection I know it wasn’t a good relationship. I cant seem to stop my mind running wild thinking about him or what he might be doing no matter how much I try to shut it off. I hate no contact but I refuse to reach out as I was always the one running after him trying to fix everything. I know we’re over and he’s very stubborn so will probably never reach out but I can’t stop having that tiny bit of hope that he will.
I’m working so hard on bettering myself I’m changing my job, working out, attending classes, eating healthy, going to therapy and making friends.
I feel so lonely and I don’t want to date anyone but I can’t help but miss being close to someone.
I don’t know how people do it, I’ve been keeping myself busy I’ve done so much physical exercise that I feel burnt out but the moment I stop I’m sad again. When does this get easier I’ve never felt this broken before. Do these thoughts eventually just stop, do you just one day feel better?
Hello, around 8 weeks ago my boyfriend of almost 4 years suddenly broke up with me. I didn’t see it coming at all he was always saying he loved me and missed me. he told me he was missing me so much the day before. we ended up having a little fall out and he said he needed a week apart to “miss each other” I asked if I should be worried and he said “no I don’t think so” only to say he needs a step back and left me. His reasons were he needs to work on himself, said we could still be best friends and hang out.
As weeks went by we would go for walks and he would be distant with me, then he suddenly went cold. I think he started seeing someone as he left his location on or turned it back on. This showed him on what looked like a date then spent the night at a house. when I asked he said ”I don’t know what to tell you” then said we need to go no contact. I should add I suspect he’s seeing a colleague as she started work recently and he was telling me how other co workers told him to stop flirting with her. A few days before the break up he had a work outing and when we went on a date the day after all he spoke about was how much attention he got and how 2 workers invited him back to their hotel rooms.
What hurts is I’ve been really depressed over this break up and he’s fine, I have days where I struggle to function and he’s out with friends and potentially already seeing someone. I gave him my everything during the relationship and I don’t deserve all the pain I’ve been left with. I never cheated I only lied about my feelings and said I was okay when I wasn’t other than that I did everything he wanted. I feel so alone and broken….how do I move past this feeling. was he already seeing someone before leaving me or could he really be working on himself?