I have firsthand knowledge about a groom. Should I speak up?
I'm in a difficult situation and genuinely want honest advice.
A friend of mine (29) is about to marry a distant cousin from a very religious family. Before this engagement, I personally saw prostitutes come to his house, and he also admitted this lifestyle to me himself. He tells his stories with prostitutes like it's his big life achievements.
What bothers me is that he presents himself as very religious to the bride's family. He said to their family: " mujhe wedding function main complete pardah chahiye. Koi Meri wife ko na dekhe".
He usually made extreme statements infront of me like, "If I even suspect my wife of cheating, I'll kill her, hum Syed Hain" while at the same time making vulgar jokes about other people's wives. He often make vulgar jokes even about his friends wife's.
In two days, the bride's brother wants to meet me along with this friend. I'm torn between three options:
Tell the brother privately what I personally know.
Say it in front of my friend so he has a chance to respond.
Stay out of it completely.
I'm not interested in revenge or drama. I'm genuinely wondering what the ethical thing to do is when you believe someone may be entering a marriage without knowing important information.
What would you do, and why?