u/Horror_Midnight6070

Hello, before I start it is important to note that I am a gay man.

A few months ago, I got a crush on a guy, and I'm going to call him Luca. Luca is simply beautiful in the truest sense of the word. He has beautiful hair and eyes, but internally he is also a very sweet, emotional, and thoughtful person. I like him romantically, but I also really like him platonic-ally and he is an amazing person to be around.

We've become really good friends and even though he is bisexual, and I would totally want to date him in a heartbeat, I am content with us being friends as long as I can keep him in my life. We do have conversations that feel a little flirty to me and some signs say he might like me back, but I'm not sure, I'm happy being his friend, and I feel no need to risk it.

Because of this crush, I haven't really been interested in dating anyone else. I want to be clear that my crush on him isn't all-consuming, but I think would be disloyal to any partner to date them while still loving Luca this much as a friend. So I suppose, while my situation is probably unstable and can't be permanent, I am perfectly happy just being his friend for the meantime.

Queue Mason, another queer male friend of mine. Mason is a newer friend and we've been hanging out more recently. He flirts with me a bit and at a sleepover he started caressing my arm a little. In hindsight I should've pulled my arm away, but I didn't want to hurt his feelings.

To me it really feels like Mason likes me, but I don't know. I am all for communication, but I don't know if it's necessary here. I'm really afraid of coming of as a total douche assuming every guy that wants to be my friend is into me. I'm worried that if I go to Mason and tell him I'm not interested in a relationship right now, he will be weirded out and I will lose him because he never liked me. On the other hand, if I don't say anything it could give him the wrong impression and lead to a messier situation down the line.

I really could go either way on this, so I'm very open to the honest and unbiased opinions of you guys. Is it appropriate to have a conversation with Mason? Should I just make more of an effort to clearly shut down his flirting?

Hello! First time posting here, I read the rules and I hope this is framed in a way that is useful to multiple people.

I am writing a story about a man who takes a deal, the immortal snail deal. Basically, he receives immense wealth and immortality, but a super-intelligent, equally immortal snail relentlessly tracks him down. If the snail ever touches him, he dies. It always crawls slowly towards him.

Most non-aquatic species of snails are hermaphrodites, meaning they have both male and female reproductive organs. I don't know what pronouns to use for the snail.

it/itself: Feels too impersonal when it is literally a main character in the story.

They/them: Feels wrong and I can't explain it.

He/him or she/her: I don't really want the snail to have a gender. It would diminish the purpose of the story.

So if anyone else has written or is writing about other hermaphrodite/sexually fluid creatures (e.g., worms, some tropical fish, banana slugs, barnacles, leeches, some eels, e.t.c.) I would love to hear your thoughts on this.

Thanks so much!

Link to original post: https://www.reddit.com/r/relationships/comments/1toqtyt/i_greened_out_and_it_might_have_ruined_my/

Well, as promised, here we go. I called him tonight so that we could talk. I wanted to make sure he understood how I felt or at the very least just say he wasn't mad at me.

Instead, he said he felt like we were "looking for different things" and wanted to "go on a break". That was valid I guess, but it was very unspecific and the tone suggested his idea of a "break" was him not having to deal with me but me not being allowed to date anyone else.

I told him I didn't want a break, and if he thought we weren't working out we needed to break up. He said okay, sounds good.

At the end of the call he said "well, glad this was quick and easy." Ouch. I actually did care for him but I guess that was just me. Afterwards he texted me: "Hey, I'm gonna keep that hoodie you gave me and just cut the embroidery out of it if that's okay. Its a nice hoodie".

The embroidery he's referring to is me spending about 45 minutes embroidering our initials real pretty on the sleeve. Gee, thanks.

I don't know what to think, I didn't see any of this coming. I really didn't. Thanks for all the great advice from yall and for almost 90k views on my first reddit post. That's cool.

tl;dr: He was a douche and im glad to be free.

P.S. I am no longer sick from the weed but I am still anxious about it. I know this isn't the sub to ask about this, but if anyone has dealt with this before how did you get over it? It's been 3 days and I'm still terrified I'll magically wake up high in the morning. I'm afraid to go to sleep.

Me (18m) and my boyfriend (20m) were hanging out with another friend and smoking. I had never smoked before and had 0 tolerance. My boyfriend smokes a lot and knows way more about this stuff than I do.

At first I barely felt anything, so later we decided to take dabs. I was overconfident and smoked way too much way too fast because I thought I could handle the same amount as them. Huge mistake.

Afterwards I spent like an hour shaking, sobbing, nauseous, dissociating, and genuinely thinking I was dying. It was one of the worst experiences of my life. Even now, over 24 hours later, I still feel gross and anxious and my brain keeps convincing me I permanently fucked something up.

The part that's really messing with me is that before we smoked, I told my boyfriend not to let me overdo it because I didn't know what I was doing. He promised I'd be okay. I know this was mostly my fault, but I trusted him because he was the experienced one, and now I can't stop feeling hurt and weird about it.

I haven't really talked to him about it yet because I know he'd probably feel terrible, but honestly I think this experience damaged my trust in him a little. What am I supposed to do?

tl;dr: My first time smoking weed was really terrible and I wish my boyfriend with more experience had protected me or at least educated me better.