u/Horsegirl4lyfe19

My mother gives me the silent treatment.
For reference, I’m 39, married with two children.

The reason is usually unknown to me. One of the more recent memories was on a girl’s trip to Mexico where she did not speak to my daughter and I for 2 days, ruining the trip.

Before this time, she just decided I didn’t love her…

And now, I suspect this time is because I didn’t take her to Mother’s Day brunch….i had called her that morning, chatted and told her my in-laws were coming by later to BBQ. I didn’t invite her because he WORKS ON SUNDAYS… she responded during the call With “oh I wish someone did something for me.” I said “I thought we could get lunch on Wednesday” then the silence began.
In years past I have usually taken her out. This year I have a 1.5yo and live and hour away. It’s not exactly easy. The day is anything but relaxing to me. I had to host AND take her to brunch with a toddler apparently.

I called her the next day and nothing. Then 1 more
Time and nothing back.

I’m just done but torn. If I don’t call her she WILL NOT call me. Ever. Period. She loves to play the victim.

I feel bad because she has been so generous to me in the past. She bought me a new washer dryer for my new house. Expensive dining room
Chairs, an expensive PB nursery set. I’ve never asked for any of this, she just does it.

It just hurts to be so cast aside. She has very poor impulse control. Yelling, swearing etc.
And I have always suspected a possible below average intelligence. Trouble with very simple math, poor insight.
She’s impossible to have a serious conversation with. It’s quite literally like talking to a child. Nevertheless, she’s my mom so I’ve had a relationship with her.

When I was in high school I moved in with my dad due to her constant screaming. The next week she tired to kill herself and blame me.

Idk just looking for similar experiences.

TY

My MIL extremely critical and it’s taking a toll on my self-esteem. My husband’s birthday is this weekend, I texted the family chat informing them we’re getting this really good chicken from my area. The business happens to be in a grocery store and sometimes they’re in gas stations (hear me out, it’s very good). Her first response, IS THAT THE GAS STATION PLACE??? She knows it is…and this one isn’t in a gas station…….moron.

so I know how this simple bitch operates. She will spend the entire evening making rude comments about the “gas station food” and how weird it is.

so now I’m heading her off and just buying expensive catering trays from a local taco restaurant. Years ago my ice machine was broken at home and she went home to get ice just to make me feel bad about being a bad hostess.

Saturday she told me to wipe my son’s face at dinner while I was feeding him. Anyway.

She makes constant digs at me. My clothes being ugly. How I look tried. How I look nice for once. Has told me my teenager is awful.

A few weeks ago my husband told me I’ve “lost my spark” and while I know this isn’t her fault, I should be able to rise above this stuff, when it’s constant and unyielding I just feel beat down. I grew up in a very abusive household and I’ve really done well for myself. But I just feel like she sees this and piles on.

She lives just a few blocks from us and I see her nearly daily. I never realized how much of an F up I am.

She comments on where I’m from, how I wear scrubs to work and calls them nasty, how I look, how I parent.

I’m just so sad anymore. I think I’m a nice person. I dress nice, am in shape, cook well, I’m

House is tidy. I don’t hurt people and try to not speak badly about others. She talks bad about everyone…so I know she talks like this about me.

Idk why I’m writing this. The chicken comment really set me off….