Really great boyfriend(23) but i think we will grow apart
This has been a very difficult month. I (24) have an amazing boyfriend (23) and things are great. He’s a super loving guy, and we’ve been together for 5 years (met in HS!) but I have this very deep and terrible feeling that we are gonna grow apart..
i’m gonna be graduating soon, and my goal is to move out of state. I’m tired of living in my hometown. I really want to explore what’s out there, even if I fail. I’m the type of person that would rather try and fail, than not try at all. Im a go getter. If there’s a goal in mind, I push myself towards it even if it’s uncomfortable.
my boyfriend is the opposite, he’s the kind of guy that’s very passive. And it feels like since Covid he’s kind of just been “stuck“. He’s not really ambitious, and I think he’s OK with the way life is for him (even though he’s very miserable most of the time. I think he may be depressed, but I haven’t been able to get him to a therapist.). He lives with his parents and has a good job. (not a career, just a job)
he’s definitely someone I would settle down with and marry/have kid with if I was ready for that… But I don’t think I am. I feel like marriage means I’m gonna have to stay put. I don’t wanna stay put. But I don’t know if he’s ambitious enough to follow me. And I don’t wanna pull him away from his comfort. But i don’t wanna resent him by staying in my hometown and never really doing anything with my life.
I just feel like there’s this really scary turning point that’s just around the corner and I’m not sure how to address this. I love him so much and he’s my best friend. I just don’t know what to do
TL;DR
boyfriend and I may grow apart because of differences, but I don’t break up with him because he’s a really great Guy. But I also don’t wanna put my own needs/dreams/wants aside For his own comfort/ refusal to grow/change. What should I do?