Terrible feeling of being stuck between two women I met at the same time
TL;DR Should I continue getting to know both woman or make a decision very quick?
Hello, I am unfortunately stuck between trying to get to know two women. I am trying to date intentionally, I do not want to make a wrong decision.
I downloaded Hinge in hopes to find a serious relationship. Pretty early on I felt overwhelmed by matching with a good amount of women. Two in particular caught my attention, and at the same time they BOTH gave me their number. One isn’t 100% my type, but she is very beautiful and has a lot of qualities I do want in a partner, except for her anxiety. She overthinks a lot and it has taken her time to open up. The other one is definitely my type looks wise, but her denomination for her Christian faith makes me wonder if we would work out long term.
Take aways from the first woman I met up with…she loves videogames and scary movies as much as me, is continuing her education, family orientated, and other things. The main doubt I have is just that she overthinks every aspect and has so much anxiety, so she is afraid to open up, but has been doing so little by little. The other issue is she tends to curse like pretty out in the open even in front of children. (I don’t mind cursing, but I typically don’t in front of kids) She’s cool, but I definitely value deep conversations. I feel like I have to bring them up if I want a more serious conversation. I’m sure if we continued talking she would probably open up more.
The other one, we kind of friendzoned early on due to timing with trying to plan a date, but we’ve been texting all day everyday for 2 months. Literally about everything, with no flirting. However we decided to go on a dinner meet up just cause we were both free… and we talked for 5 hours that they had to kick us out since they were closing. I know both of us felt a connection, and she does want a serious relationship. We talked about getting out of the friendzone (since it was something I did). We have some things in common, but not entirely the same like the first woman. She’s smart, beautiful, family and career orientated. Unfortunately hates scary movies so I won’t have my HHN or scary movie buddy lol but not the biggest deal. The other thing I’m worried about is she is a seventh day Adventist, and I’m non denominational. My worry would be in terms of raising children. I personally don’t have any problem with anyone in ANY FAITH, I just prefer traditional practices. (I’m sorry if that upset some people, or if it sounds like I’m ignorant)
I hope I do not come off as an ass. I just know that I really am looking to get married, and I try to be as intentional as possible. I’m not sure what I’m looking for doing this, but wouldn’t mind seeing some outside perspective. I do not want to waste anyone’s time, and once I am locked in with someone I am 100% loyal to that person.