u/Hot-Hand4299

My MIL had problems from the start. She has many character traits I just can't handle well. She is clingy ,she is boundary overstepping, she is a hoarder and messy and talks nonstop.

In the beginning I just thought she was annoying but tried to be polite and civil. She often would overstep obvious boundaries and I would talk to my husband and he would make excuses for her. Then one day it escalated into a really nasty fight.

She felt the need to "confront" me. I told her that I did not want to discuss with her. She cut off my way and wouldn't let me leave. I told her to move and she didn't. She did the opposite and came closer and I completely lost it. I was yelling at her and even tried pushing her away from me but she didn't budge. My husband and her acted after that fight like it was necessary and now that it's all out we can move on and everything is fine.

But I genuinely just don't like that woman. Everything she does irritates me and I don't want her around me. She has been trying to be better but I just don't want her around ME.

I honestly don't know how I can fix my feelings towards her. There is just so much that happened that I can't just get over it.

My daughter is only six and she is a real sweetheart... to me. But for some reason with my husband she always shows a completely different side of her and is rude and irritated quickly.

They often end up discussing over the tiniest disagreements and it's pretty stressful. I try to explain both of their intentions and usually it helps them understand. But obviously my husband has problems understanding her or trying to understand her. He also can come of as harsh sometimes which is weird because he is also a sweetheart.

But they keep bumping heads daily. Sometimes I'm shocked about her tone she has with him because with me she would never talk like that. Same goes for my husband. He is pretty strict with her but I can't do any wrong.

So I always find myself trying to communicate between them. I don't know if it's the right thing to do.