u/Hot-North1261

Hi Everybody,

We have been together for 5 years. We married by court( just him and me in court ceremony) but traditionally we were suppose to get married but we haven’t done that. So, a lot of the people in the society know we got engaged but we never did the wedding ceremony. I and he don’t really care but it does seem to affect some days. I also feel I am not married but just a live in relationship. I have been struggling with the relationship but it’s worst now after the baby and loosing my job. My baby is not 1 yet but I couldn’t imagine putting him in day care. I have been applying for jobs but I haven’t gotten time to prepare well as I am taking care of the baby days and nights. He only helps sometime but majority of the time, I am the one doing everything. Recently his job require him to be onsite with some pay bump. He is moving. I did had talks about me not wanting to move and he said, if I don’t want to move, he can’t say anything. He will leave behind the car and pay 1k for childcare and some household expenses. Relationship wise, he is emotionally unavailable and he only focuses on work and is a homebody. He said, he will initially commute back and forth but once he gets his place there, he won’t be coming where we are staying now. Should I part ways? I really don’t want to move and I don’t know how my job search will go if I move there. Ever since being with him, I have been away from my immediate family and this always saddened me the most. I should had parted earlier before the baby but I was scared about the consequences and the whole situation involving me being divorced. I also haven’t been able to make any friends at my current place besides some coworkers from my previous job. I know him giving his priority to his work is important but he never tries to settle things with me. I have already sort of screwed my life a little bit don’t want to screw it anymore. He mentioned he is going to provide any help I need. Why is he throwing money at me? I don’t want that kind of relationship. Am I being unreasonable?

tl;dr

In relationship for 5 years. We have a baby together. He is moving for his job. I don’t want to move because I don’t have a job lined up.

tl;dr

Hi Everybody,

We have been together for 5 years. We married by court( just him and me in court ceremony) but traditionally we were suppose to get married but we haven’t done that. So, a lot of the people in the society know we got engaged but we never did the wedding ceremony. I and he don’t really care but it does seem to affect some days. I also feel I am not married but just a live in relationship. I have been struggling with the relationship but it’s worst now after the baby and loosing my job. My baby is not 1 yet but I couldn’t imagine putting him in day care. I have been applying for jobs but I haven’t gotten time to prepare well as I am taking care of the baby days and nights. He only helps sometime but majority of the time, I am the one doing everything. Recently his job require him to be onsite with some pay bump. He is moving. I did had talks about me not wanting to move and he said, if I don’t want to move, he can’t say anything. He will leave behind the car and pay 1k for childcare and some household expenses. Relationship wise, he is emotionally unavailable and he only focuses on work and is a homebody. He said, he will initially commute back and forth but once he gets his place there, he won’t be coming where we are staying now. Should I part ways? I really don’t want to move and I don’t know how my job search will go if I move there. Ever since being with him, I have been away from my immediate family and this always saddened me the most. I should had parted earlier before the baby but I was scared about the consequences and the whole situation involving me being divorced. I also haven’t been able to make any friends at my current place besides some coworkers from my previous job. I know him giving his priority to his work is important but he never tries to settle things with me. I have already sort of screwed my life a little bit don’t want to screw it anymore. He only has a sibling on his side.