My (33F) husband (36M) turns exciting moments to all about him
Ok so like the title said - my husband turns a lot of exciting moments into something about him. Here are the two most recent times -
I’ll explain our home dynamic. This is my second marriage , my first (severe DV) I got out of but I have an 8 yr old son. who is autistic adhd. I do all home chores, childcare , cooking etc there needs to be done.
I used to have a full time job as a CMA working 50+ hours a week. But after nightmarish caretakers we decided to it would be best if I had something more flexible. Now I work a part time flexible contract position.
Yes - before you ask - he does not help with childcare . Pick up/drop off at school relies solely on me.
First moment :
I started my Business Bachelor degree (WGU flexible) last year . I still keep up with everything as best as I can , including working. My degree allows me the flexibility to do one course at a time. Recently I passed a course that was the hardest yet I have completed . I ran to him excited about this and to share the moment. HE immediately turned the moment about HIS course he failed (mind you this was WEEKS ago) and how sad he was. I felt like I put in the hard work and just wanted to share this and it was made all about him.
Second moment (this morning):
I have been designing digital products for about a year now. Since I do all of the childcare, I have known for a long while having an Autistic child and full time (non flexible previous) does not work. I have a domain, secured the shop name , doing the research to get started. I know it’s slow to start , but I entered the conversation wanting to discuss just simple logistics .
I wanted to discuss the logistics and show my plan of what it would look like if I invested in the printing supplies vs outsourcing. Before I could even go into this…
HE turned the entire conversation to his friends wife and their business. Saying how they do cakes etc… and we got nowhere in the discussion.
TL;DR Been married 5 years in my second marriage . I do all housework and childcare. Husband turns all exciting moments into something about him.