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I know we’ll probably never get a definitive answer on what his motive actually was but what I find almost as interesting is that Kohberger has never really tried to explain it himself.

Once he pleaded guilty and avoided a trial, there wasn’t going to be the same public presentation of evidence that might have given us more insight into what was going through his head. But even at sentencing, he chose not to give any real explanation.

Do you think staying silent is about maintaining some sense of control over the case or is there a simpler reason he doesn’t want anyone to know what the motive was?

Might get different answers in the r/longisland sub but I've always wondered about this since Bergen County and LI (particularly Nassau and Suffolk) both seem to fill a similar role as suburban areas right outside NYC.

If you work in the city and don’t have a specific reason to live on LI, what advantages does LI have over Bergen County and vice versa? From Bergen you can drive pretty easily to other parts of NJ/NY, you’re not dealing with island geography, and depending on the town the commute into Manhattan can still be pretty reasonable.

I know Bergen has its own downsides, especially the lack of a direct train into Manhattan from most places. But for someone choosing purely based on quality of life + access to NYC, what would make you pick Long Island instead?

I’m an Asian guy in his 30's from the NYC area and I’m in Chicago for about a month. I’ve only been here a couple days so obviously tiny sample size but the difference on dating apps has been kind of ridiculous.

I’ve gotten more matches and likes in a few days here than I did during some pretty long stretches in NYC. I used Hinge in NYC for around 6+ months and it always felt like I was fighting for scraps even with a decent profile. In Chicago, I’m matching with women I’m genuinely attracted to pretty consistently without changing anything about my profile.

I know part of it could just be the “new here” boost on the apps, but Chicago already feels less brutally competitive. NYC always felt like everyone had 500 other options and you were basically disposable.

For people (particularly men) who have dated in both cities, did you notice Chicago being noticeably easier than NYC?